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Mental block over sex

  • 14-07-2009 8:49pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I have a mental block which prevents me having a sexual relationship. I avoid sex or cant come when i do. Im a straight male in my late twenties, fairly attractive and outgoing and dont have a problem in meeting girls. When we get to bed though, thats when i freeze up and dont want to take it any further. I have no problem masturbating so i know its a mental barrier.

    I think its due to a traditional religious childhood where anything about adult relationships was taboo at home. I suppose i have a feeling deep down that sex is wrong or bad. This is ruining any relationship i ever had and i need help. Is there anywhere i can turn for help? Can some counselling sessions help to overcome this or perhaps hynotherapy?


    Thanks for any advice.


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  • #2
    suspectpackage
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    You've just got to push yourself through that first awkward encounter.

    You could pay hundreds on counselling etc and it's still going to come down to you in bed with the girl and having to make the decision to go for it.

    It's really that simple because once you do it, you'll have "broken the seal" so to speak.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
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    suspectpackage wrote: »
    You've just got to push yourself through that first awkward encounter.

    You could pay hundreds on counselling etc and it's still going to come down to you in bed with the girl and having to make the decision to go for it.

    It's really that simple because once you do it, you'll have "broken the seal" so to speak.

    I dont agree with this & would recommend counselling. You could have sex tomorrow but not get over your deep rooted feelings from your past. I'm in the same boat and going to start counselling soon, but I'm older than you and wish I had done something about it when I was in my twenties like you.


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    Permabear
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  • #5
    LegacyUser
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    Heya,
    yeah, I definately think counselling is a great idea, especially seeing as you have mentioned the whole religion taboo thing, could have left you with deep seated feelings of shame, which is never good.

    Look into humanistic and integrative counselling, personally I would avoid ctb, though short term, cos you'll find that as you dig into your past for reasons you think and behave and feel as you do today, you'll uncover a lot more stuff too, best of luck ('',)


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