Soulmate within reach, but not quite..

Issybella

Hey fellow Board readers,

Going through bit of a dilemma.. recently ran into an ex bf, who I believe is my soulmate.

We were together a few years ago for a short while until circumstances pulled us apart as we had to go to diff. cities. Our paths have always crossed even before we met & got together and it seems to be happening again. And im not sure whether its a sign we're meant to be together.

We are both what some people would describe as quite spiritual , particularly myself, and both believe in fate etc, having a psychic bond and both being believers in guardian angels...
Before we bumped into each other recently a white feather came down and landed at my feet, at the place where i was later to meet him. Every since that night, ive continued to see white feathers appearing, even in work, beside my desk!! ive always took that as a sign of my guardian angel/spirit guide being around and tryign to commmunicate with me, so im not sure whether they are confirming what i feel for this guy...

Unfortunately we are both with other people at the moment, but after running into each other, on my part it has stirred up any feelings which i once tried to get over.

We always said to each other, that if we were meant to be for each other, it wouldnt pass us by..and there are alot of coincidences happening which are making our paths cross again, as if we are not meant to say gdbye..

Just looking for advice... Im wouldnt mess up his relationship with his partner at the moment, but wondered what other people would do if you were convinced someone was your soulmate but the timing wasnt right???

THanks guys!

LegacyUser

Do nothing...see what fate has in store for you...if it's meant to be it will be...

In the meantime..enjoy the relationship you are in...

SarahSassy

I would break up with my Oh straight away cos he / she deserves better.

The Corinthian

TBH, given that the reason you believe this guy is your soulmate is based upon various para-psychological occurrences, I would keep with that line of 'logic' and seek your answer through the entrails of a freshly killed goat.

Alternatively, you can stop chasing after what you don't have and try to do right by what you do have.

CDfm

Sometimes things happen that are purely coincidential and we say they are right because we want them to be. This is probably one of those as romantic and all as it sounds.

Its a what if situation and what might have been and you regret it. The time may be passed and you both have moved on. My guess is you are looking back to when life was less complicated and being nostalgic for those days.

Its like first love and people change in lots of ways and wev always look back with rose tinted glasses.So while he may have a place in your heart etc and its what happens.When you look at it either one or the other of you didnt value the relationship and put other things before it at that time -so it wasnt that special back then.

Its nice to look back but its better to live in the now and a lot more fulfilling.

Sarah W

How inconvenient that you are both with other people..

togster

You believe in fate? So let it take it's course.

TheCityManager

if you cant be with the one you love then love the one you're with !!!

Taltos

OP - I am of a mind of a few of the others here.

For a moment - please consider your current OH.
Do you think that they deserve to be with someone who is asking us whether you should go back with an ex?

This does not show much committment or respect to your current OH - not sure how the angels would look on that.

Do you OH a favour and let them down. Maybe once you have some space and time to yourself you can figure out what it is you are really looking for. Maybe it is in fact that you should be with your soulmate - but please treat your OH as you would like to be treated yourself. Poor git.

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Wibbs

The Corinthian wrote: »

TBH, given that the reason you believe this guy is your soulmate is based upon various para-psychological occurrences, I would keep with that line of 'logic' and seek your answer through the entrails of a freshly killed goat.

Alternatively, you can stop chasing after what you don't have and try to do right by what you do have.

Nail on the head. Now personally I don't put any store by "fate" or spiritual stuff and certainly don't when it's used as an excuse for dodgy and selfish behaviour. But hey whatever floats your boat and fair enough, but what isn't fair is getting all gooey over someone when you're with someone else. It's telling me the the person you're with is only there as an emotional convenience and for some nookie time. If you are of a spiritual bent, what does your spirituality think of that situation. I'm sure whatever guardian angel you have is hardly into emotional cheating.

Basically píss or get off the pot to coin a phrase. Let your current partner go, if you're having these feelings for another. Your current partner deserves someone who has those feelings for them. You don't so for me at least the answer would appear to be pretty clear and doesn't require divination by goat entrails.

If he is your soulmate and you believe that, well then leave your non soulmate, make sure he leaves his and take it from there. Indeed if you do have faith in this stuff you wouldn't even consider anything else. It was meant to be as far as you're concerned is it not?

LegacyUser

Be careful Issybella, while you maybe thinking that fate is pushing you together again and that he is your soul mate, he may not feel the same anymore! People change and circumstances change. You could be setting yourself up for a big fall here so be sure to have your eyes open if you decide to pursue him. He might believe that the girl he is now with is his soul mate and where would that leave you?

However, this might be an opportunity to get some closure on whatever you had with him so that you can move forward with later relationships. (This is me assuming that you are going end things with your current partner as others have suggested.) And of coarse on the other hand if you are soul mates and fate is bringing you together, maybe you are supposed to be together. Only way to know for sure is to go for it... but just be prepared for the worst.

Oh The Humanity

BAH !!! 'spiritual' so often another word for a collection of conveniently morphing beliefs that suit the 'spititual' persons whimsys on any given day :rolleyes:

Signs, Angels, Feathers ........blah....Gawd.....get your head out of the clouds OP.

He is in a relationship and so are you, although you added that almost as an afterthought.

There is no fate. There is no 'meant to be' -we are nothing but irrelevant ants running around the planet.

You are assigning meanings to these irrelevant events. Its all in your head and its best if it stays there.

amy-marie

Issybella wrote: »

Unfortunately we are both with other people at the moment,

I think that says it all really. You shouldn't feel "unfortunate" to have a boyfriend, like it's some inconvenience. Regardless of what happens with your "soulmate" you should split up with your boyfriend - you clearly don't want to be in the relationship so why bother?

Wibbs

amy-marie wrote: »

you clearly don't want to be in the relationship so why bother?

Fear of being "single", social proof coming from being in a relationship, convenience. The usual in other words. That's fine if it's a FB situation, but when one partner is mooning over their "soulmate" it's not so fine.

Mr Benevolent

Yup, all very dubious. 'My spirit told me to cheat, man!' The OP's looking for a way to wriggle out of her relationship and is trying use her 'spirituality' as an excuse. It's a bit sad considering she'd made up her mind before starting this thread.