My mum and the pill

LegacyUser

I am a 16-yo girl and went to see the doctor last week about having irregular periods. She gave me a prescription to put me on the pill but when I told my mum, she lost the plot. I have been going out with somebody for 3 months now and my mum said I just went to the doc so me and him could start having sex. She said the doctor has no right to put me on the pill without my parent's permission. She took the prescription away from me. So what should I do? My cycle is all over the place and I never know when my period is coming. I've tried to tell my mum this but she just says its because I'm a teenager and that it will even out over time.

PS, I have no dad, it's just me and my mum.

Genghiz Cohen

Get the doctor to contact her.

John Mason

if the only reason the doctor gave you pills was for irregular periods, i think your mother is right/

you are only 16, there is no need to be pumping your body full of unesscary chemicals and hormones.

you are still developing, you dont need the pill regularise your periods. who is to say what is regular or not. i am 34 and dont have a regular cycle. its hardly the end of the world.

if you really got the pill to have sex with your boyfriend well then you need to sit down with your mother and explain to her the situation to her.

Oh The Humanity

Eh? I dont think its any of your Ma's business.

Go down the doctor and explain your Ma took it and get the doc to issue the prescription again.

Permabear

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marthaclark

I don't know the legalities of this, but I would definitely go speak to your doctor again.

If your doctor has somehow broken the law by prescribing the pill to you without your mother's consent, I will be very surprised.

Your doctor might be obliged to discuss it with your mother, however.

If your decide not to get another prescription, maybe you could talk to your doctor about getting blood tests done?

These might show if it's a hormonal problem.

As far as I know, the pill creates a 'fake' period so if there is an underlying hormonal problem, it's not really "fixing" anything, anyway.

Again, this is something you definitely need to speak to your doctor about

Nevyn

You are 16 you are old enough to have your own dr and do not need your mothers permission or consent when it comes to it.

I sugget you get in touch with your dr and get the dr to talk to your mother.

LegacyUser

I was put on the pill at 16 for the same reason. I have nothing but trouble because of it now. My hormone levels never righted themselves and it's obvious both physically and emotionally if you know what to look for.

Your cycle is not going to be completly reliable ATM and possibly wont be for another few years. It's part of growing up. I just wish that when I was your age, I had someone to say "this is normal, deal with it". Would have saved me a lot of grief.

lolli

Hi op,

I was put on the pill at 16 for medical reasons also. Your mother is being very unfair to you because at your age it is up to you what you take. Go back to the doctor and perhaps bring your mother with you so she can discuss it with them aswell.

Miss Fluff

Unregistered wrote: »

I am a 16-yo girl and went to see the doctor last week about having irregular periods. She gave me a prescription to put me on the pill but when I told my mum, she lost the plot. I have been going out with somebody for 3 months now and my mum said I just went to the doc so me and him could start having sex.

Was that part of the reason you went to see the doctor?

LegacyUser

This is the OP again. Thanks to everybody for the replies, the advice is really helpful. I think the best thing is to get the doc to phone my mum and explain.

To people who asked if I really want to be on the pill to have sex, the answer is no. I am still a virgin and I dont intend to have sex till I'm older. I just have very irregular periods that can come anytime and I basically have to carry tampons with me everywhere I go just in case. I also get bad period pains. So that's the reason I went to the doc, nothing else.

Just so you know - my mum has got very religious and she doesn't believe girls should be on the pill at all. She has given out about it before and says its the first sign of a slapper that she's at the doctors door for a prescription. I thought if it was for other reasons than sex it would be ok, but no. (I don't agree with her views btw.)

Is there a different pill you can take that helps with periods but isnt used for contraception?

Das Kitty

Unregistered wrote: »

This is the OP again. Thanks to everybody for the replies, the advice is really helpful. I think the best thing is to get the doc to phone my mum and explain.

To people who asked if I really want to be on the pill to have sex, the answer is no. I am still a virgin and I dont intend to have sex till I'm older. I just have very irregular periods that can come anytime and I basically have to carry tampons with me everywhere I go just in case. I also get bad period pains. So that's the reason I went to the doc, nothing else.

Just so you know - my mum has got very religious and she doesn't believe girls should be on the pill at all. She has given out about it before and says its the first sign of a slapper that she's at the doctors door for a prescription. I thought if it was for other reasons than sex it would be ok, but no. (I don't agree with her views btw.)

Is there a different pill you can take that helps with periods but isnt used for contraception?

I'm not sure about the answer to the last question.

Based on your Mum's religious beliefs I would bypass her completely to be honest, as stated before you don't need consent at your age. I understand that you want to be open with her but she's not going to change her mind at this stage of the game. Just be discrete with where you keep the pill and when you take it.

lolli

get your mother to read this

http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/oral.html

Permabear

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LegacyUser

I agree with donegal fella, you are 16 and if your doctor is putting you on this for medical reasons then get a copy of the perscription by ringing the doctor (say you misplaced it) and dont tell your mother,,, I was put on the pill at 15 due to my irregular periods and also because of the severe pain i suffered whilst i was having them, my mother came with me as she said no one should have to go through the pain i was dealing with,, the doctor couldnt explain why i was having such severe pains, (i wasnt overweight, was fit, non-smoker) so she prescribed me some tablets first and she said these ususally work, however i waited until next month and they had no effect, so my mother and i returned to doctor and my mother gave permission for the pill to be prescribed to me... if i was 16 i would have just gone about it myself, but i was underage and couldnt,, my prescription was yasmin and i can honestly say i have never had any problems or side effects from this.. the next month my periods came i only had mild cramps and my cycle was regulated,, its the best thing ive ever done and i would reccommend it to anyone if they are in severe pain (i tried everything, nurofen, feminex, prescription from doctor) however i did stop taking it for about a year when i was 18, and by this time my periods had sorted themselves out, just to give my body a break from it,,,

sam34

there was a legal challenge to this in england, which became known as the gillick case.

the nuts and bolts of it are that you are 16, therefore you do not need your parents consent to go on the pill.

end of story.

sam34

pink fluffy bunny wrote: »

if the only reason the doctor gave you pills was for irregular periods, i think your mother is right/

you are only 16, there is no need to be pumping your body full of unesscary chemicals and hormones.

you are still developing, you dont need the pill regularise your periods. who is to say what is regular or not. i am 34 and dont have a regular cycle. its hardly the end of the world.

irregular menstrual cycles can be caused by a variety of things.
i dont think it's responsible to be telling the OP that there is no need to be taking teh pill for irregular periods.

her GP, who knows her medical history, her family history and has examined her is in amuch better position to make a recommendation.

Jafin

Im a guy, so I dont know about evening out periods and stuff, but I will say I have a couple of friends (and friends of friends etc.) that were on the pill and it just messed around with their periods even more. I'd stay away personally if I was a girl and needed it for that reason.

Pigwidgeon

I was the same as you OP, ridiculously irregular periods, some months I'd skip, it could come anytime, there were even a few times when I'd get it for a few days, it would go and then a week or two later I'd get it again.
It was such a nuisance and I eventually got sick of it and went to the doctor when I was 17 and she put me on the pill. The difference is dramatic, I can actually expect my period now instead of worrying about it all the time that I might get it.

I'd definately do it again, unless somebody experiences crazy irregular periods, like I did and by the sounds of it so do you, then they haven't a clue just how annoying and stressful it is so really can't comment on it. I'd say ring your doctor and get a replacement prescription, it will make the world of difference.

jinxycat

op everyone's different about the pill, when i was your age i'd irregular periods also, so went to the doctors. they wanted me on the pill and i said no i'd wait til i was 18 - 21 (that's when they're suppose to settle down).

in the end i couldn't wait that long, they got worse, had them for a month, stopped for 3 days then had then back again, this went on for a couple of months.

at the end i had them for 4 months straight and it was horrible, got examined to see if there was any underlying problem, thankfully there wasn't. but i had to start the pill immediately i couldn't go on any longer.

it was brilliant, i never looked back, came off it then a year ago and now i'm completely the opposite, barely have anything. so frustraing:mad:

if it's something you really want i'd go to the doctors and explain the situation, it is your choice and you're old enough to go on your own now.

wish you the best of luck.

underflowers

I might be one of few to say this but i think you're a bit young for the pill- there's never a good age for pumping unnatural amounts of hormones into your body but like your body isn't even fully developed yet! Plus, you're not an adult yet so I think your Mam should have final say in things while you're still under her roof.

mental07

underflowers wrote: »

Plus, you're not an adult yet so I think your Mam should have final say in things while you're still under her roof.

At 16 she does not need her mother's consent to go on the pill. She may need it for other things, but not this.

Bubblefett

hey, i was 15 when i was put on the pill- my period pains were too painful for me to cope with and without it i would never have been able to sit through my junior cert. I don't regret it for a minute and would definatly recommend it to anyone.
I really hope it all goes well with your mom, she's just seeing the sex side of the pill. You're her little girl and hearing that you want to go onto the pill is one hell of a wake up call that you're growing up.
She will come around
All the best x