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Child's mother coming between us

  • 13-07-2009 4:40pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi all, I'm hoping there is someone here who was in a similar position & can help. I'm about to get married(next month) to my wonderful boyfriend. Everything is going great apart from an interfering ex who happens to be the mother of his 12 year old son. For this reason she always has a grasp on our lives and is using it to stir trouble whenever she can.

    They never had a relationship really, the child was a result of a fling. She is a little obsessed though and over the years they've had a couple of one night things. The last of these was just before we got together(kissing, no more). The thing is she is now claiming this happened after we got together. He's promises it wasn't that it was months before but he told me about it cause he can't trust her not to through it in my face even though the dates are a lie. She's not invited to our wedding but her son is and he of course believes his mum(who's told him that his dad did the dirt on the woman he's marrying with her!)

    I guess I'm just upset for no reason here, mostly to do with the timing. I also don't like his son thinking this is true. Or am I being niave to believe my bf? How can I get this woman out of my head?


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  • #2
    miders
    Closed Accounts Posts: 55 ✭✭miders


    im in a fairly similar situation. going out with a lovely fella whos ex is the mother of his child. its very hard and really pushes ones patience to the edge. however you are marrying a man you love and must trust, so you have to live with this woman to a degree. there is no easy solution!!


  • #3
    tinkerbell
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,423 ✭✭✭tinkerbell


    Bar her from your wedding, she's not allowed to go. Have a relative keep watch so that she's not allowed anywhere near the church or reception so that she can't cause a scene.

    To be frank about it - feck her. Don't let her come between you. If you trust your bf and know that he's telling the truth then nothing else matters. She's just being a jealous cow that he's got happiness now. Just ignore her. As hard as it is, you'll just have to grin and bear it.

    Don't let her ruin your wedding day!


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