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Giving stuff back to an ex-friend

  • 12-07-2009 9:10pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey, I'm a 36 year old male from Belfast and this is my first post here.

    Long story short, one of my friends sent me a few things (photography books) about a year ago, and I was under the impression that I was given these as a gift.


    Now, that person doesn't want anything to do with me for some reason and they want all this stuff back. What should I do? I thought this stuff was mine..


Comments

  • #2
    Sarah W
    Closed Accounts Posts: 71 ✭✭Sarah W


    If the person's friendship matters more than the books give 'em back.

    If the books mean more to you (now) than the person, don't.


  • #3
    CDfm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    I would say that the person probably intended them as presents but the relationship hasnt worked out and has asked for them back. So send them back if they are an issue. They are probably not worth much but will end whatever disagreement you are having.

    No harm if sending them back to attach a note saying simply "here are the books you wanted and that all is well with me and you hope all is fine with you also" short simple and direct sort of thing. Least said soonest mended/no hard feelings.


  • #4
    Carsinian Thau
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,054 ✭✭✭Carsinian Thau


    very_confused wrote: »
    What should I do? I thought this stuff was mine..

    Just give it back. It's not worth the hassle.


  • #5
    kittenkiller
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,433 ✭✭✭kittenkiller


    Carsinian Thau wrote: »
    Just give it back. It's not worth the hassle.

    +1 I wouldn't bother even giving it a second thought.


  • #6
    Barracudaincork
    Closed Accounts Posts: 773 ✭✭✭Barracudaincork


    She is just been bitchy asking for them back, as i dont doubt she meant them as a present and not to look after, i mean how stupid is that! Just give her them back, they or she isnt worth the hassle, she has a bee in her bonnet about something as you said and if she isnt a friend enough to talk to you about it, she isnt much of a friend, you havent lost as much as you think you have. You wont enjoy using the books anymore either so just post them back and forget about the lot of it.


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  • #7
    tuxy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,983 ✭✭✭✭tuxy


    Barracudaincork wrote: »
    She is just been bitchy asking for them back, as i dont doubt she meant them as a present and not to look after, i mean how stupid is that! Just give her them back, they or she isnt worth the hassle, she has a bee in her bonnet about something as you said and if she isnt a friend enough to talk to you about it, she isnt much of a friend, you havent lost as much as you think you have. You wont enjoy using the books anymore either so just post them back and forget about the lot of it.

    How do you know it's a she?


  • #8
    Barracudaincork
    Closed Accounts Posts: 773 ✭✭✭Barracudaincork


    tuxy wrote: »
    How do you know it's a she?

    I dont and i didnt assume anything, the same thing would apply if it was a "he", i just wrote "she" instead of "they" to be honest, my mistake, nothing was intended by it.


  • #9
    thefeatheredcat
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,282 ✭✭✭thefeatheredcat


    CDfm wrote: »
    No harm if sending them back to attach a note saying simply "here are the books you wanted and that all is well with me and you hope all is fine with you also" short simple and direct sort of thing. Least said soonest mended/no hard feelings.

    I would agree with CDfm here on this, probably the best to keep it simple and pleasant. And I would say, if they're asking for the books back, give them back. I've been in a similar situation before and I agree with the other posters, it's not worth the hassle.


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