Sore after Sex

LegacyUser

I'm female and I've been sexual active for about 3 years or so. Often enough I am quite tender after sex...the odd time there's a little blood. The tenderness can last for a day or more.

Now I'm not looking for medical advice or anything as I've had a smear test and said it to the doc and she examined me and said all was healthy and to just be careful and not be too rough or anything, but we're never particularly rough.

Just wondering if anyone else has encountered this problem and found anything that helped. It just becomes a hassle if say we're on holidays and want to be a bit more active than usual, that I just can't because it begins to hurt too much.

994

talk to another doctor.

LegacyUser

have you tried lubrication?

Faith

Where's the tenderness? WRT the blood, it could be a cervical erosion. They're harmless but basically the cells on the outside of your cervix get extremely weak, and get damaged if touched. So that causes bleeding after sex. Talk to your doctor about it, or go to another one. It's diagnosed by an examination, generally.

Alternatively, is your partner particularly large? In that case, your vaginal walls probably will always feel a bit sore after sex because they're being stretched. Try using lube regularly.

The_Conductor

One word- 'Foreplay'.

If you have sufficient foreplay- it should minimise the likelyhood of soreness. Do a little research- and perhaps come up with a few suggestions for your partner.

LegacyUser

OP here, as regards going to another doctor, I guess I could if it got worse but the doc I go to specialises in women's health and has a woman's health clinic every week. She examined me and said I was fine and I would trust her.

As for lubrication, no we haven't tried that...sometimes I can get a little dry even with lots of foreplay...it seems to just depend on the day really.

Soreness only really happens around the "perineum" area...the back kind of. I guess that could be friction? It's just annoying at how long it sometimes can hurt.

I guess lubrication may be the way to go...it just doesn't sound too appealing.

Permabear

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lynsalot

Hi Op

Do u use condoms? It could be an allergy to latex causing it.
I would definitely recommend using lube. It's not unappealing at all and takes away the dryness and soreness. I think around the middle of your period you're meant to be more sensitive down there.

I find sometimes if we don't use condoms it can make me quite sore afterwards, even the next day but I had vulvadynia a few years ago so put it down to that.

Best thing to do is not worry about it too much. Has it always been that way? It might be worth getting a second opinion

LegacyUser

Are you on the pill? I had a similar problem caused by the pill. I had a cervical erosion and also vaginal dryness which made sex very uncomfortable. I was running packs of the pill together which made it even worse.

marthaclark

did your doctor test for UTI?

I think a urine sample is required to diagnose it.

Sex should be comfortable; try the foreplay and lube but if it continues, I would definitely go back to the doctor.

miec

Hi Op

Like you I have had soreness around the perinium area, more to the back than front. I did use lube and it helped, the person I was with at the time was large and I learned that each time we had sex I would split in that area (it was only small) also I was not as aroused as I could have been. Are you enjoying the foreplay? Sex? It could be you are worried or stressed at the time of sex and that doesn't help either.

Das Kitty

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OP here, as regards going to another doctor, I guess I could if it got worse but the doc I go to specialises in women's health and has a woman's health clinic every week. She examined me and said I was fine and I would trust her.

As for lubrication, no we haven't tried that...sometimes I can get a little dry even with lots of foreplay...it seems to just depend on the day really.

Soreness only really happens around the "perineum" area...the back kind of. I guess that could be friction? It's just annoying at how long it sometimes can hurt.

I guess lubrication may be the way to go...it just doesn't sound too appealing.

There's a really nice lube that I have it's Durex Sensilube, it's not sticky or anything like KY, very much like your own natural fluids and is very good. If you're dry and not using any lube it's bound to hurt and bleed with friction. You can even be discrete and head off to the bathroom to apply it if you like.

naasface

Hi i have the same problem but the problem is my partners too big and when he goes too deep it hits the cervix. its very painful. maybe mention it to your OH to not go as deep??
if he likes deep penetration why not try deep throating instead??
and use lube too..

Bottle_of_Smoke

you'll just worry yourself discussing it on the web. Sure your doctor might specialise in womens health but she might just be wrong/inexperienced in your exact problem, might be better to ask a doctor who specialises in sexual health.

The Recliner

Too much medical advice flying around here

OP it might be best to visit a doctor