Fighting after break up

LegacyUser

my ex gf broke up with me recently anyway what i want to know it is i bought her an expensive television 3 months ago and gave it to her as a present im still paying for it. would it be wrong to keep it myself or sould i give it back to her. i have it in our old apartment

Time out

Tricky one. Depend a little bit on break up, if it was bad then I'd hold onto tv.

Also maybe you should say nothing and hold onto it and see if she says anything and if she does give the whole " I cant believe you re taking tv as well esp after breaking my heart etc" line.

On balance Id try my best to hold onto it.

BUT she might try and use it as bargaining chip to get something else out of you.

seanybiker

She broke up with you. Personally I would keep the television.

kmart6

Keep it...your still paying for it,so why would you give something to an ex that would in turn mean she's still costing you money!

LostinKildare

It was a gift. You gave it to her, and it is hers. Be classy.

SarahSassy

Keep it. If I were her I would not expect to keep it knowing you were still paying for it...

Gary ITR

Give her the telly. It was a gift. You gave it with a good heart so leave it with her

SarahSassy

But he is still paying for it so technically he doesnt own it himself to give.

G-Money

Tell her he's still paying it off and if she wants the TV, she can take up the repayments. If not, he will hold onto it

Wagon

LostinKildare wrote: »

It was a gift. You gave it to her, and it is hers. Be classy.

Yeah but she dumped him. So who cares what she thinks?

I'd say keep the telly and buy a PS3 to go with it.

LostinKildare

Wagon wrote: »

Yeah but she dumped him. So who cares what she thinks?

Not about what she thinks, but what he thinks of himself.

I'd feel like a creep if I took back a gift I'd given someone, regardless of what happened afterwards and/or whether I'd finished paying for it.

You all do know what a gift is, don't you?

Red Alert

If you don't have to physically take it back from her then keep it.

Wagon

LostinKildare wrote: »

You all do know what a gift is, don't you?

Yes. You know what getting dumped is don't you?

LostinKildare

Wagon wrote: »

Yes. You know what getting dumped is don't you?

Oh yes. Yes. It's sh*tty but you might as well try to behave in a way you can be proud of.

TheCaveman

NO....

Tell her to go F*** herself, keep the telly.


I bought my ex wife a 2000 Euro camera, 4 months before we seperated....

To this day i still regert not keeping it...

Trinity

Ask her if she wants it. It was a gift, regardless of what it is.

wow the problems tv's cause, my relationship was not officially over til i sent the plasma over to his mothers

Hanging onto your dignity is more important and worth more than hanging onto the tv, she might not even want it.

CDfm

Jeez - she would have some cheek coming around and asking for it so on balance I would keep it and as its HP its technically not your property to give away.

Wagon

LostinKildare wrote: »

Oh yes. Yes. It's sh*tty but you might as well try to behave in a way you can be proud of.

But if it's a HD TV, the playstation 3 supports that. A PS3 won't dump you. If you get bored of a game you can always just get another one and the first game won't get angry and hit you with a lampshade.

anyway, he hasn't finished paying for it yet so I think he's allowed to keep it when he has and not look petty.

southofnowhere

grandmaster wrote: »

Tell her he's still paying it off and if she wants the TV, she can take up the repayments. If not, he will hold onto it

Seems to be the middle ground.

But she might not make an issue of it.

Personally, I'd tend to say F it, it's only a television and let her have it, but everyone's different.

I'd go with grandmaster's advice (after reading your own posts).

skippy15

Toughy- think everyone says initially give it to her which I think you shoiuld... but it depends how messy a break up it was and if you still have any ambitions to get back or remain friends, if not keep it-

Dante

If she broke up with you, keep it.
If not, keep it anyways.

LegacyUser

hi thanks 4 the advice people. right the break up was messy but over nothing really it was just an argument that spiralled out of control and she moved out. maybe a day or two of not talking and she decided to call it off. i think we could have sorted things but she didnt. i wanted to get back together but now couldnt care less.ok so i decided to give the telly back to her and rang her sunday 2 tell her this. i said id drop it at her house this evening after work.

we were talking on the phone today (i use talking loosely) more like i was at work she rang at half 6 id arranged to be at hers at quarter past but got tied up with work and i text her saying "delayed at work might be another 2 hours before i can give you the telly". anyway i answered the phone and said "can i ring u back in 5 minutes "as i was with the boss nxt thing she starts roaring down the phone where's my f'ing telly bla bla bla . i had 2 hang up turn my phone off. very ashamed in front of the boss like.

so i finish work and ring her back. i asked her what her problem was and why she cant have some patience. she then goes off in a rant shouting "you said you'd give me the telly at quarter past this is you down to a tee a liar with your mind games".. she also called me a few choice names down the phone. Jesus like all this over a bloody telly.so i told her id to drive home get the telly and load it into the car i told her id be an hour and id be there at 10.

So i go home watch the telly 4 15 minutes !!!! yes the same telly..and have a shower. said i may aswell look and smell well 4 our final encounter. i come out of of the shower and theres a lovely text waiting 4 me. it went " im so sick of your S~~t just leave the tv at the front door of my house dont even come in i dont want 2 see you again u waste of space. i f##king hate you and you are sh#t in bed" this after three years of telling me how great i was. women hah . anyway i text back " no f~~k you you dumped me i was willin to give u this bloody telly back but alls you've given me is grief. now you dont want me in your life you aint getting the telly either. now p##s off and leave me alone".

so im keeping the thing just because she is wrecking my head so much about it. i know its probably not the right thing 2 do but at this stage i dont care. i reckon if she'd left a pair of socks behind we'd have the same drama.

CDfm

So thats whats she is really like as a person.

I know its been said before but delete her number and block her email address and all that.

If she does call just say I cant talk now and will you back blah blah blah and dont engage- just dont call back.

Trinity

Eh i changed my mind, keep the telly


Yes i doubt its anything to do with the telly she is obviously very angry and judging by the things she had said i think she thinks you cheated on her? She wants to hurt you for some reason, maybe in a day or 2 when things calm down ye can talk.

I'd say she prob wanted you to chase her.

JamesAlex

Unregistered wrote: »

hi thanks 4 the advice people. right the break up was messy but over nothing really it was just an argument that spiralled out of control and she moved out. maybe a day or two of not talking and she decided to call it off. i think we could have sorted things but she didnt. i wanted to get back together but now couldnt care less.ok so i decided to give the telly back to her and rang her sunday 2 tell her this. i said id drop it at her house this evening after work.

we were talking on the phone today (i use talking loosely) more like i was at work she rang at half 6 id arranged to be at hers at quarter past but got tied up with work and i text her saying "delayed at work might be another 2 hours before i can give you the telly". anyway i answered the phone and said "can i ring u back in 5 minutes "as i was with the boss nxt thing she starts roaring down the phone where's my f'ing telly bla bla bla . i had 2 hang up turn my phone off. very ashamed in front of the boss like.

so i finish work and ring her back. i asked her what her problem was and why she cant have some patience. she then goes off in a rant shouting "you said you'd give me the telly at quarter past this is you down to a tee a liar with your mind games".. she also called me a few choice names down the phone. Jesus like all this over a bloody telly.so i told her id to drive home get the telly and load it into the car i told her id be an hour and id be there at 10.

So i go home watch the telly 4 15 minutes !!!! yes the same telly..and have a shower. said i may aswell look and smell well 4 our final encounter. i come out of of the shower and theres a lovely text waiting 4 me. it went " im so sick of your S~~t just leave the tv at the front door of my house dont even come in i dont want 2 see you again u waste of space. i f##king hate you and you are sh#t in bed" this after three years of telling me how great i was. women hah . anyway i text back " no f~~k you you dumped me i was willin to give u this bloody telly back but alls you've given me is grief. now you dont want me in your life you aint getting the telly either. now p##s off and leave me alone".

so im keeping the thing just because she is wrecking my head so much about it. i know its probably not the right thing 2 do but at this stage i dont care. i reckon if she'd left a pair of socks behind we'd have the same drama.

what a b*tch, you were totally right to keep it, although if i was you I probably wouldnt have even contacted her in the first place. Now you should send he pictures of you watching porn on the tv nah jk

daftdave

Unregistered wrote: »

hi thanks 4 the advice people. right the break up was messy but over nothing really it was just an argument that spiralled out of control and she moved out. maybe a day or two of not talking and she decided to call it off. i think we could have sorted things but she didnt. i wanted to get back together but now couldnt care less.ok so i decided to give the telly back to her and rang her sunday 2 tell her this. i said id drop it at her house this evening after work.

we were talking on the phone today (i use talking loosely) more like i was at work she rang at half 6 id arranged to be at hers at quarter past but got tied up with work and i text her saying "delayed at work might be another 2 hours before i can give you the telly". anyway i answered the phone and said "can i ring u back in 5 minutes "as i was with the boss nxt thing she starts roaring down the phone where's my f'ing telly bla bla bla . i had 2 hang up turn my phone off. very ashamed in front of the boss like.

so i finish work and ring her back. i asked her what her problem was and why she cant have some patience. she then goes off in a rant shouting "you said you'd give me the telly at quarter past this is you down to a tee a liar with your mind games".. she also called me a few choice names down the phone. Jesus like all this over a bloody telly.so i told her id to drive home get the telly and load it into the car i told her id be an hour and id be there at 10.

So i go home watch the telly 4 15 minutes !!!! yes the same telly..and have a shower. said i may aswell look and smell well 4 our final encounter. i come out of of the shower and theres a lovely text waiting 4 me. it went " im so sick of your S~~t just leave the tv at the front door of my house dont even come in i dont want 2 see you again u waste of space. i f##king hate you and you are sh#t in bed" this after three years of telling me how great i was. women hah . anyway i text back " no f~~k you you dumped me i was willin to give u this bloody telly back but alls you've given me is grief. now you dont want me in your life you aint getting the telly either. now p##s off and leave me alone".

so im keeping the thing just because she is wrecking my head so much about it. i know its probably not the right thing 2 do but at this stage i dont care. i reckon if she'd left a pair of socks behind we'd have the same drama.

my gut feeling before i read this bit was to keep the telly , whatever you do ,DO NOT give her the telly ........ get a broken one from adverts.ie and deliver that one to her , and spray paint across the screen , "lots of love ****" ..... and put your name in at the end !!!

CDfm

Trinity wrote: »

Eh i changed my mind, keep the telly

For some reason tellys have bad karma. I had a bad telly experience too and I put it behind me.

Yes i doubt its anything to do with the telly she is obviously very angry and judging by the things she had said i think she thinks you cheated on her? She wants to hurt you for some reason, maybe in a day or 2 when things calm down ye can talk.

I think differently - wouldn't it be better for the OP to just keep out of the argument and leave things alone for now. What she said was as bit much and if she was drunk or whatever she should apologise.

Johnnnybravo

Unregistered wrote: »

hi thanks 4 the advice people. right the break up was messy but over nothing really it was just an argument that spiralled out of control and she moved out. maybe a day or two of not talking and she decided to call it off. i think we could have sorted things but she didnt. i wanted to get back together but now couldnt care less.ok so i decided to give the telly back to her and rang her sunday 2 tell her this. i said id drop it at her house this evening after work.

we were talking on the phone today (i use talking loosely) more like i was at work she rang at half 6 id arranged to be at hers at quarter past but got tied up with work and i text her saying "delayed at work might be another 2 hours before i can give you the telly". anyway i answered the phone and said "can i ring u back in 5 minutes "as i was with the boss nxt thing she starts roaring down the phone where's my f'ing telly bla bla bla . i had 2 hang up turn my phone off. very ashamed in front of the boss like.

so i finish work and ring her back. i asked her what her problem was and why she cant have some patience. she then goes off in a rant shouting "you said you'd give me the telly at quarter past this is you down to a tee a liar with your mind games".. she also called me a few choice names down the phone. Jesus like all this over a bloody telly.so i told her id to drive home get the telly and load it into the car i told her id be an hour and id be there at 10.

So i go home watch the telly 4 15 minutes !!!! yes the same telly..and have a shower. said i may aswell look and smell well 4 our final encounter. i come out of of the shower and theres a lovely text waiting 4 me. it went " im so sick of your S~~t just leave the tv at the front door of my house dont even come in i dont want 2 see you again u waste of space. i f##king hate you and you are sh#t in bed" this after three years of telling me how great i was. women hah . anyway i text back " no f~~k you you dumped me i was willin to give u this bloody telly back but alls you've given me is grief. now you dont want me in your life you aint getting the telly either. now p##s off and leave me alone".

so im keeping the thing just because she is wrecking my head so much about it. i know its probably not the right thing 2 do but at this stage i dont care. i reckon if she'd left a pair of socks behind we'd have the same drama.

What a bitch!!! If I had a bag of bruised wil%lys I wouldnt give her one after reading that! Good call on keeping the tele. You were better off not giving it to her anyway, every month making the repayments for something you dont have would of been a right sickner. Enjoy yer tele;)

Lucyx

Oh she is such a sweetheart! I had to laugh at those texts between you but it must have been awful for you to see that crap on your phone. I hate seeing words like that on a text. Theres just no need for that rubbish.

Good riddance to her and I hope you and your TV enjoy many happy evenings together