The psychological impact of a kick in the balls?

Misfirerepeat

Good title eh? I was looking for your thoughts on the psychological impact of a woman kicking a man in the testicles - you see, I have this friend (okay, its me) who fantasises about being kicked or kneed in the groin by attractive women. I've had this fetish since for as long as I can remember being sexually aware, and have grown up feeling embarassed and ashamed of my fantasies. I am now in my 30s and lead a 'normal' life, I'm doing well in my career, have a loving girlfriend and am more open about what arouses me.

Could anyone help me to understand why I have this fetish? I don't remember any specific incidences in my childhood (my childhood was a happy one) that may have triggered the incorporation of such bizarre things into my sexual psyche. I know that such fantasies are not normal, but is this fetish ('ballbusting' for you googlers) recognised or defined by professional psychologists? And the biggy - is it too late for me to change it (I'm not under any pressure to change, but it would be nice to feel like less of a weirdo!)?!

Thanks in advance for your thoughts...
MFR

GAAman

Best thread title EVER!

My own 2c would be it is about being under the control of the woman in the same vein as bdsm etc, without sounding or being sexist generally when it comes to physical strength and power men are the more dominant of the two but regardless of if you are 7 foot 6 and muscles where you are not supposed to have them, a kick to the rocks will drop you like the rest of us

Odysseus

Misfirerepeat wrote: »

Good title eh? I was looking for your thoughts on the psychological impact of a woman kicking a man in the testicles - you see, I have this friend (okay, its me) who fantasises about being kicked or kneed in the groin by attractive women. I've had this fetish since for as long as I can remember being sexually aware, and have grown up feeling embarassed and ashamed of my fantasies. I am now in my 30s and lead a 'normal' life, I'm doing well in my career, have a loving girlfriend and am more open about what arouses me.

Could anyone help me to understand why I have this fetish? I don't remember any specific incidences in my childhood (my childhood was a happy one) that may have triggered the incorporation of such bizarre things into my sexual psyche. I know that such fantasies are not normal, but is this fetish ('ballbusting' for you googlers) recognised or defined by professional psychologists? And the biggy - is it too late for me to change it (I'm not under any pressure to change, but it would be nice to feel like less of a weirdo!)?!

Thanks in advance for your thoughts...
MFR

Firstly I would say that when it comes to human sexuality there is very little that can be considered normal. It is normally thought that a fetish works so well for the person, i.e. they are generally happy with that most don't enter therapy just for that.

This is the internet I'm not going to guess on the aetiology of this condition for you, however, if you are interested in changing your behaviour around this or just understanding it more I would suggest starting some type of long-term therapy. Psycholanalysts are quite intetrested in fetishes, or you could go down the CBT route which would be shorter and [correct me if I'm wrong] would aime to help you control your urges aroung this matter. Hope this helps a little.

Stokes

Mine contracted just reading the title of the thread

aDeener

surely you meant lick, getting a kick in the balls really really hurts dont you know??;)

Overheal

Does it have to be a kick? She could just slap you with a crop or a tassle? Thats kinda ****ed up m8.

Id look up pain fetishes. Aside from burns or cuts, getting kicked in the balls is up there in the worst ways to get hurt. I mean is it just the balls or is there other pain that this fetish extends to.

Zaph

aDeener wrote: »

surely you meant lick, getting a kick in the balls really really hurts dont you know??;)

aDeener, I suggest you acquaint yourself with the part of the charter dealing with unhelpful and off-topic posts before you post in this forum again.

orestes

Misfirerepeat wrote: »

Good title eh?

Certainly grabs your attention alright

Misfirerepeat wrote: »

I was looking for your thoughts on the psychological impact of a woman kicking a man in the testicles - you see, I have this friend (okay, its me) who fantasises about being kicked or kneed in the groin by attractive women. I've had this fetish since for as long as I can remember being sexually aware, and have grown up feeling embarassed and ashamed of my fantasies. I am now in my 30s and lead a 'normal' life, I'm doing well in my career, have a loving girlfriend and am more open about what arouses me.

The above just goes to show that a persons sexual preferences are not nevessarily obvious and can't be judged on a persons lifestyle. People from all walks of life/backgrounds/etc. are into all sorts of things. You are not normal, but that's not a bad thing, cos nobody is "normal" when it comes to sex, everyone has their own preferences and there is nothing that someone somewhere isn't into. The mistake people make is in thinking that just because soething isn't as commonly regarded as something else it must be worse. It's not, different does not mean worse/better, it's all the same. Different strokes for different folks.

Misfirerepeat wrote: »

Could anyone help me to understand why I have this fetish? I don't remember any specific incidences in my childhood (my childhood was a happy one) that may have triggered the incorporation of such bizarre things into my sexual psyche. I know that such fantasies are not normal, but is this fetish ('ballbusting' for you googlers) recognised or defined by professional psychologists?

Psychologists are very interested in sexual fetishism and the motivations/causes of fetishes (I'm a psychology student myself and it's actually the area I would like to do my future reasearch in). As I understand it, there really is no easy answer to what "causes" a fetish. The variety of fetishes is far too broad to make a sweeping generalisation and give a simple answer I'm afraid. Regarding your particular fetish it would probably be something regarding strong women and an associated masochistic streak, but I fully admit that is just a guess on my end and should definitely be taken as such. Only a trained psyhologist or professional in the same vein would be able to really help you to look into the matter properly and help you understand it.

Misfirerepeat wrote: »

And the biggy - is it too late for me to change it (I'm not under any pressure to change, but it would be nice to feel like less of a weirdo!)?!

You're no more of a weirdo than any other human being with a sex drive, and believe me there are plenty of people in the world with what might be viewed as "weirder" fetishes. Personally I believe that trying to change your sexual make-up could lead to unhappiness and confusion for you, I would suggest trying to understand it and how it relates to you as a person as a whole and if possible maybe finding safe ways to indulge that aspect of yourself.

Misfirerepeat wrote: »

Thanks in advance for your thoughts...
MFR

All the best and best of luck

Zaph

Overheal wrote: »

Does it have to be a kick? She could just slap you with a crop or a tassle? Thats kinda ****ed up m8.

In your opinion. I'm not saying it's everyone's thing, it definitely wouldn't be mine, but please try to be a bit less judgemental. Thanks.

Overheal

in my opinion. pardons

cafecolour

It'd be commonly referred to as 'ballbusting', and your 'kink' is common enough to have websites dedicated to it, which would make me say it's not that weird in the scheme of things

Otis Driftwood

Ive heard of this fetish alright.While its not exactly considered the norm its not as rare as some might think.Its just an off shoot from BDSM.
What I will say is if this is something you are keen to try I would be concerned about the physical implications ie testicular cancer/torsion etc.
Even a single blow to the genitals,be it accidental or intentional can have dangerous repurcussions so if its something you want to try then Id urge you to do as much research as possible and do it in a controlled environment with someone you trust.
Best of luck.

prinz

Like nedtheshed pointed out, it can actually be highly dangerous so I'd be wary of doing it tbh. I know a fella who got hit during a hurling match and needed surgery afterwards, IIRC came close to losing a testicle. So if you are going to do it, I wouldn't go down the hit me as hard as you can route. Have no idea where it may have originated from. Perhaps discuss it with your girlfriend..?

Sorry should point out that in the case of the fella I mentioned, he barely noticed the injury at the time, skin wasn't broken, so no blood, very little bruising, and he finished the match. It was days later when the pain kicked in, excuse the pun. So it doesn't have to be a heavy blow for damage to be done down there.

Nevyn

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Risk_Aware_Consensual_Kink

Risk-Aware Consensual Kink (RACK, also Risk-Accepted Consensual Kink) is an acronym used by some of the BDSM community to describe themselves and their philosophies. It specifies that any activity between fully informed consenting adults is acceptable.

Philosophy

RACK's tenets are best described by a deconstruction of the acronym.

* Risk-Aware: Both or all partners are well-informed of the risks involved in the proposed activity.
* Consensual: In light of those risks, both or all partners have, of sound mind, offered preliminary consent to engage in said activity.
* Kink: Said activity can be classified as alternative sex.

The RACK philosophy comes from that elements consensually agreed upon among some large BDSM community as SSC (generally referred to as "safe, sane and consensual") are not inherently safe but rather all elements contains risks and that other BDSM communities may consider some of them as edgeplay. [1]

RACK focuses primarily upon awareness and informed consent, rather than accepted safe practices.[2] For example, RACK participants are aware that legal consent often does not create a defence to criminal liability for any injuries caused during edgeplay, and that under English law, non-physical injuries are included in the definition of grievous bodily harm. An SSC person would shy away from such activities as too unsafe.[citation needed] A RACK person, however, would analyze the risk, and decide whether to accept that risk.[citation needed]

There has also been some discussion on the next level of RACK. PRICK (Personal Responsibility Informed Consensual Kink) basically encourages each participant to take responsibility for his/her own actions, as well as being informed (aware of) the risks involved.[3]

citizen_p

wtf i know somone who got kicked by a sheep (hes a farmer not a sheep rapist.... ?? i wonder if thats a fetish... idcount that as worse than as you said "ballbusting"... begining to rant) and when he went in 3 days later the doctor said he thought one of his balls were dead


oh and another guy who was too embarassed to tell anyone his balls were tangled (which is suposed to be common lol) and when he did 2 weeks later he had to get 1 removed.....never asked him though his brother told me so not sure if this one is true or not.


oh and pic or gtfo
before anyone else says it :P

Taltos

Please be careful on this - but have fun.

I also personally knew a guy yrs ago whose gf kicked him (out of anger) - he ended up needing surgery and had to have a testicle removed.

Make sure you do the proper research to prevent any such occurence - and would suggest that if you are going to regularly cause bruising to this area you might need to increase the frequency of you self-checks.

You never know - maybe first start out with a jock-strap - it might just be the action of being kicked there that has you interested and not so much the pain - but since I am not into this I cannot tell for sure.

As above - best of luck with this.

Nevyn

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