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Fool for love??

  • 10-07-2009 7:04pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Been seeing someone on-off for a year and a half now and am seriously falling in love but they dont want to commit to a relationship due to their own insecurities. Should I hold on or just let them go? I think if we got together, it could go all the way but dont wanna rush into something and regret it later. Am I just a fool for love though or am I right to wait?


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Unregistered wrote: »
    Been seeing someone on-off for a year and a half now and am seriously falling in love but they dont want to commit to a relationship due to their own insecurities. Should I hold on or just let them go? I think if we got together, it could go all the way but dont wanna rush into something and regret it later. Am I just a fool for love though or am I right to wait?

    You have been seeing the other person on-off for a year and a half so obviously u are not rushing into anything.... I would say get out now. I have been there and a year and a half is a long time. This is a win-win for you cause if u leave now and he/she doesnt come after u, then u know u were right and are lucky to get out of it....and if there miss u too much when u r gone he/she will come after u and will be prepared to committ. Win-win all round


  • #3
    Sarah W
    Closed Accounts Posts: 71 ✭✭Sarah W


    After 18 months if they don't want to commit - has she/he actually said that recently or are you assuming? - they are possibly 'making do' with you. Not good.

    Time to have a frank, open conversation and make your decision....


  • #4
    philologos
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,479 ✭✭✭✭philologos


    Unregistered wrote: »
    Should I hold on or just let them go? I think if we got together, it could go all the way but dont wanna rush into something and regret it later.

    I'd say if you feel it is worth it, if you feel enough for this person pick up the courage and ask about your situation. It is better to know than to live your life asking "what if".
    Unregistered wrote: »
    Am I just a fool for love though or am I right to wait?

    I think you are right. However, if the person says that they aren't feeling reciprocal love for you, I wouldn't compromise myself in that situation it could cause a lot of pain.

    Best of luck OP :)


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OP here. As long as I've been seeing them I've also been trying to get over them and I can't do it. I'm almost scared to ask them how they feel for fear of being rejected. Not knowing where I stand in the relationship is very tough but I just can't seem to let go. The thought of not having this person in my life kills me. Part of me wants to 'cop on' and find another guy who does want to be with me... But I've never felt like this before and I'm in my mid twenties. My stomach does somersaults when I see them. Maybe I'm just being naive to the fact that this may never go anywhere though???


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