I wish I had a relationship issue

LegacyUser

But, I have no job, I can't afford to go for even one drink. I'm not meeting any guys worth dating even if I did I wouldn't be able to afford to go on a date. I'm not from a big place, there is very little to do here, there are few places I can go to where I could meet someone. There's a bigger town near by but I wouldn't be able to afford the petrol to go there more than once a week, I'm actually still paying off the loan for the car/insurance and it was a very cheap car. I'm starting to get quite lonely and it's bothering me. Also internet dating just isn't for me, joining clubs not many here and the members are normally old enough to be a parent(I am a member of one club where two of my friends parents are members), the pub I can't afford and it's not my thing anyway and friends of friends are either not interested/interesting. I don't know how to find a guy where both of us connect and if I did I don't know how I could afford to go on dates, during the day would be easier but at night it's 1 of 4 choices pub/dinner/cinema/stay at home but I am getting ahead of myself there, I need to be able to find someone to go on a date with first.

Skapoot

Is this just a rant or is there a specific question??

Anyways, Id say you're in a place where everything seems bad. People go through them a few times in their life. You seem like you want badly to be with a guy. If you had a guy, honestly. You'd still be in the same town, with nothing to do, nowhere to go, no clubs to join - therefore nothing to talk about!

I'd say perhaps work on being happy on your own. Putting your happiness in the hands of another can only lead to bad situations!

Try to find something positive in every day. Soon you'll find ten positive things in every day. And so on.

Being with a guy wont make you happy unless you're happy in the first place. Have you expressed your feelings to family or friends? Even a counsellor maybe. Or how would you feel about seeing a life coach?

Im not qualified to give you any advice though so please either take or leave my opinion! I dont want to judge you and I hope you didnt get offended by what I said.

VaioCruiser

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But, I have no job, I can't afford to go for even one drink. I'm not meeting any guys worth dating even if I did I wouldn't be able to afford to go on a date. I'm not from a big place, there is very little to do here, there are few places I can go to where I could meet someone. There's a bigger town near by but I wouldn't be able to afford the petrol to go there more than once a week, I'm actually still paying off the loan for the car/insurance and it was a very cheap car. I'm starting to get quite lonely and it's bothering me. Also internet dating just isn't for me, joining clubs not many here and the members are normally old enough to be a parent(I am a member of one club where two of my friends parents are members), the pub I can't afford and it's not my thing anyway and friends of friends are either not interested/interesting. I don't know how to find a guy where both of us connect and if I did I don't know how I could afford to go on dates, during the day would be easier but at night it's 1 of 4 choices pub/dinner/cinema/stay at home but I am getting ahead of myself there, I need to be able to find someone to go on a date with first.

Move to a big town and look for a job ?

DangerMouse27

Take a big deep breath....aahhh!

Haha your fine, your just a bit stressed that things arent were you thought they would be...marriage and kids by 25..yeah right! everyones life is different and doesnt follow a set parameter of meet in pub,go to cinema,eat out in restaurant.
First things first..
Find the guy!
The other stuff is just minor...in th scheme of all that is love..very minor

LegacyUser

skapoot, I think you may have got it right and don't worry it's not easy to offend me. Thanks

Also dangermouse, marriage & kids, hell no, I don't believe in getting married and I don't like children.However I would like someone to spend time with and be close to.

I think I might need to figure other stuff out first.

beya2009

Yep ur just goin through a bad patch thats all. it really is true.."when it rains..it pours".

You have to try and turn negatives into positives. I know obv most types of socializing requires money but like you could even invite friends to your house for a few quiet drinks (Just get cheap drinks from tescos...I personally get bavaria when im broke but then again im a student:L or if ur desperate get cheap drinks from lidl) Your m8s might bring friends of friends and you never know wat can happen..might be a connection

Squeeonline

Op all I can say is

you have 99 problems....


but a bitch ain't one.

This is the gospel according to Jay Z.

MJOR

you seem to be in a very negative place at the moment OP> There has to be something you can do. We all despair! Things get us down and at the moment nobody is rolling in money. You need to get a job... that'll help you big time to meet friends and gain back some confidence. Even a big of volunteer work or something. Your frame of mind at the moment won't really get you anywhere, you need to focus on yourself and if you are lonely it's a friend you need. I'm not sure where it is you are living but there might be someone on here that may be able to help.
Chin up x