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Advice on getting over a bad time in your life

  • 07-07-2009 11:08pm
    #1
    lassdara
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7 ✭


    Any advice out there on what got people thru a really low point in their lives - would be really great to hear any.....
    in sumary husbands parents broke up, very very messy and unexpected, my husband got sick as a result, i was trying to hold it all together and gave up my career and life to get him thru it and then in the end got depression myself..... only starting to come out the other side now but am find it hard to get my life back on track...... any advice welcomed....;)


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  • #2
    Xiney
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,085 ✭✭✭Xiney


    The only person you can "fix" is yourself.

    You can support your husband but he has to "fix" himself.

    Good luck to both of you.


  • #3
    Queen-Mise
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,461 ✭✭✭Queen-Mise


    once you work out how to do it, tell me please :-)

    Very slow, steady steps forward. One thing i absolutely go to each week - a hobby. After that its what im able for any give day.

    I dont have any pearls of wisdom, still struggling to get out myself.


  • #4
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    Within a year I went through the death of a loved one/redundancy/having my heart broken/a significant legal issue/unemployment.....needless to say a pretty sh1tty year and a bit.

    Surround yourself with those that love and support you and remember that there is ALWAYS light at the end of the tunnel. I remember Mum telling me when I was going through it all that after any terrible period in your life an equally positive and happy one is just around the corner.

    You have to see where you are now as a temporary and transient blip, i.e. the fallout from your in-laws seperation will never be as intense as the immediate aftermath, your husband will never have to have a shock like that again etc etc.

    I sometimes went into church and lit candles too, really helped me focus on what I wanted and hoped for - did me good to BELIEVE that things would get better - and they have, my life has done a complete 180 degree turn and I couldn't be happier:)


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