Ex suddenly stopped contact and am worried about him

LegacyUser

Hi all,

I know that ex's are ex's for a reason, but mine got in touch with me recently and we have been in touch for the last few months, but 2 weeks ago contact stopped. Emails, txts, phone calls and I am genuinely worried about him.

No phone calls returned, even though I have left VM - not txts, no emails - do I just stop contacting him - I only want to know he is alright - I'm freaking out. I live in a different part of the country and it's not like I can just pop over.

I was thinking of phoning his job as he works shift and at least if they say, 'Oh he'll be in at such a time' I will know its just me.

Thanks for any advice.

DangerMouse27

Hi!

Wow could be a multitude of things.
Maybe he discovered some feelings for you he had buried and he just cant do the friends thing anymore even though he thought he could. Its tough to be freinds with someone you secretly love.
Or he just found someone else and is trying to make that work.It wouldnt be fair if he text or emailed you when with someone else.

Your best bet...from a guys perspective.Do nothing! You may just give him false hope or freak him out if you keep contacting him.
I think there are feelings there though from you??

rallye

I agree, do nothing!

Who broke up with who by the way?

LegacyUser

Sorry to be harsh, but it sounds like he might have been using u and now he has met someone else tbh. Dont keep contacting him, and WHATEVER you do dont call his job like some obsessive ex... unless you have a real reason to worry about him (mental health issues) then just let it go. and if he gets in contact again tell him where to go

Mr Benevolent

Yup, do nothing. Exes are exes for a reason.

LegacyUser

Hi again,

I know that ex's are ex's for a reason, and I know all that, but if he was like what I would call 'a friend' - a normal every day non-ex friend, who did this I would be exactly the same, worried and freaked out.

Freaking out and wanting to know are they alright ? - I'm getting angry now too which isn't helping - if nothing else because it's just plain rude. I suppose once I know he's alright, I can not contact him from there on in - does that make sense.

I am genuinely worried yes and I know his family and sisters and everything, but don't want to ask is x ok - so do I just leave it ?

shellyboo

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I am genuinely worried yes and I know his family and sisters and everything, but don't want to ask is x ok - so do I just leave it ?

You couldn't be all that worried about him if you're not prepared to ask someone. If the slight social embarrassment of having to ask is worse than the worry... you're not really all that torn up about it.

If you were really, truly worried, you'd ask.

enda1

shellyboo wrote: »

You couldn't be all that worried about him if you're not prepared to ask someone. If the slight social embarrassment of having to ask is worse than the worry... you're not really all that torn up about it.

If you were really, truly worried, you'd ask.

Well put

Colonel_McCoy

Maybe he met somebody else and wants a clean break?

Nitxteha

It's possible that he started going out with someone new and he prefers not to keep in contact with the ex (you) out of respect for his new relationship (only guessing, of course..)

Don't worry for him, he has his family and other people to do that. And, bad news travel fast anyways.

It sounds like an excuse from you to keep in touch, you're better off letting him go...

Oh The Humanity

He's probably met someone and doesn't want to be in contact with his ex...its not the best look when you're in a new relationship.

If you know his family surely you would have heard if something had happened.

Try not to worry and work on your other friendships. Ex's mostly are not ideal friends.