Blush when he looks at me!

LegacyUser

Hi Guys,

Just a quick one. There's a guy at work that I have a huge crush on. We got on really well but he has a girlfriend so I'm trying my best not to let my feelings develop any further. It's proving to be harder then I thought but it's necessary.

Anyway, I'm 30 years old but when he's talking to me or even in the same room I turn into a teenager again. When he tells me a funny story I laugh really loudly then kick myself as soon as he leaves the room. When he talks to me I try my best to seem nonchalent and cool but I've noticed that I touch my hair more and speak quiker when he asks me something. I often feel my body get hotter too...like I break into a mini sweat!!

People often say that men are clueless when it comes to knowing a girl likes them but I'm worried he knows now!

So, two things, firstly...do you think he proabaly knows because of my juvenile giggling etc and two...how can I stop fantasising about a taken man:(

He seems to really like me though, as in think I'm sound. We talk about football, books, music etc and always have a laugh..

legend365

With the loud laughter i'd say he's cop on

Men are the same. We make complete and utter fools of ourselves infront of a girl we fancey.

VaioCruiser

Unregistered wrote: »

Get a grip. He has a girlfriend. Put yourself in her shoes. It's women like you who can't control themselves that ruin relationships.

I find this a very offensive and nasty post.

honey79

ah you poor girl i know this feeling only to well bet you cringe afterwards
try not to get to close to him you will only end up hurt

good luck

VaioCruiser

Ihaveacrush wrote: »

Hi Guys,
Just a quick one. There's a guy at work that I have a huge crush on. We got on really well but he has a girlfriend so I'm trying my best not to let my feelings develop any further. It's proving to be harder then I thought but it's necessary.

Anyway, I'm 30 years old but when he's talking to me or even in the same room I turn into a teenager again. When he tells me a funny story I laugh really loudly then kick myself as soon as he leaves the room. When he talks to me I try my best to seem nonchalent and cool but I've noticed that I touch my hair more and speak quiker when he asks me something. I often feel my body get hotter too...like I break into a mini sweat!!

People often say that men are clueless when it comes to knowing a girl likes them but I'm worried he knows now!

So, two things, firstly...do you think he proabaly knows because of my juvenile giggling etc and two...how can I stop fantasising about a taken man:(

He seems to really like me though, as in think I'm sound. We talk about football, books, music etc and always have a laugh..

It is true, we men can be very slow sometimes. But I would guess that he knows you like him. Whether he knows you 'fancy' him is a completely different question. Guys know to their cost that girls can very difficult to read.

You say taken, but how taken is he ? Long term ? short term ? Fiance ?

There was another girl here recently with a somewhat similar dilemma and I said to her that work is a very artificial environment. Everyone is on their best behaviour, dressed up, patient and friendly. It is not a great guide as to how we feel about someone when they relax and become themselves. So don't get carried away.

My advice is to become friends with him, enjoy his company and let time take it's course. Don't let it stop you looking elsewhere ! because that is wasting you life. But you never know what might happen.

As to fantasising ... why would you want to stop that ?? :P

All the best

ManOfMystery

Unregistered wrote: »

Get a grip. He has a girlfriend. Put yourself in her shoes. It's women like you who can't control themselves that ruin relationships.

Get out much? Maybe you should get a grip. There are numerous threads on here from people actually having affairs, we have an OP here who is making efforts NOT to take it any further so your 'advice' is a bit ridiculous.

OP, I wouldn't analyse it too much - I doubt very much he sees the distinction between your normal behaviour and your behaviour round him as clearly as you do in your head. Just try and relax, think of things to say rather than hanging on his words, etc.

LegacyUser

i have the same problem OP except I am engaged to a great girl and the girl at work is engaged too. Crushs are quite common in the workplace but its best not to advance your relationship with your workmate. Dont avoid them either just enjoy their company but be aware that he might try and use your friendship for other uses ie bit on the side. I know the temptation to maybe tell him how you feel but what you have to remember is he is with someone and until that changes your chances of coming out of this without looking like the b1tch. Get out and try and meet others even though it might seem he is the only one you want, who knows the right one might just be around the corner. Good luck