To move or not to move...

LegacyUser

Im in a total quandry.

I have a great partner and 2 lovely kids. Im in my job 15 years and actually hate it lately. The place isnt doing well and Im bored.

My partner and I have been talking about moving the last while and recently viewed a fabulous place down the country. We both fell in love with it. Big bungalow on an acre.

We have a lot of things to take into consideration and Im terrified.
I want to leave my job and move and look after my kids, rent the house out we have, buy the place in the country - what we pay in creche fees will cover our mortgage.
I have no idea where I stand on redundancy - I really do not want to leave with nothing [bearing in mind, my boss is the meanest man in Ireland]..

My gut is live the dream and go for it but, I will be loosing my good salary (in this bloody recession), although the company isnt doing well and we are struggling to make money at the mo.

I know its a life changing thing and we need to think long and hard about it but I cant sleep at night and dont know what to do.. My partner is very keen and happy to provide for us but Im holding back and know this place will sell soon....

Why am I so sh!t scared?

barbiegirl

Of course you're scared, it's a massive change and change is scary. My advice would be go for it. Life is too short for what if's and maybe's.
On the work front, is there any talk to redundancies, if so see can you put your name forward. You may only get the statutory, especially if he's mean, that's 2 weeks for every year of service. Still a nice sum and usually tax free.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the Reply BG.

A couple of people have been made redundant but I can’t see him offering it to me. I do a number of different jobs here as I’m so long with him and basically run the show tbh. I have no doubt I would get just the statutory and would be very happy with that amount.

It’s the move out of the big smoke that’s daunting me too. I have lived in the city all my life but really relish the change at the moment and feel it’s the right thing to do. I feel if I don’t do this now I never will.

LegacyUser

It is better to regret the things you have done than haven't. (in some circumstances!)

I say go for it, you only live once.

LegacyUser

Sounds as though he will have a hard time replacing you, and may not be happy for you to leave, but after 15 years of service you deserve at least a conversation with him about your situation and ask to be put it for redundancy. Companies get a high % of statutory redundancy back anyway so won't all be coming out of his pocket. If they are loosing money you never know he may welcome your approach.

I moved back to the country after living in the big smoke for years and i am the happiest person. cost of living has halved, everyone is lovely, life is about being happy and healthy with what you have. I think it's wonderful for children too.

Good on you for taking the first steps. And good luck in your new exciting life