Texting - one for the lads

LegacyUser

hey,first time poster,so sorry to the moderators if it's in the wrong place,but i just wanted to get some opinions on two things that have been bugging me lately!

1.Why do lads take your number on a night out and then not text? Is it because they feel they have to because you met(shifted,kissed,)??I don't mind if a lad dosen't ask me for my number,but if he does he's giving me hope that somethings going to happen!

2. Better give a bit of history to this one!I was lucky enough(haha) to be texting a guy who i had met a few times,we were texting every four days or so,usually initiated by him. Anyway he left for canada for the summer about a month,did'nt expect hear from him,wasn't bother by it or anything, but he text me about two weeks after he left,"hey babe,hows things?,miss me?,text me back on this number" I did,figured he was a little home sick,was being nice more than anything,and HE NEVER REPLIED!Why would he tell me to text him if he wasn't goin to reply?!

Anyway,sorry for the length,and for coming across as a bit neurotic!I'm really not that bad!;)

Snoogans

Your message might not have been able to reach him.

GiftofGab

I do that sometimes. He just wants to hear from you but couldn't be arsed writing back. If he's anything like me he'll just be dropping by to say hi. Prob doesn't want to get into a full blown text conversation when he's on holidays but still wants to keep in touch. He's in canada so dont expect him to be texting every couple days. Just expect the odd text here and there. He'll text back somtime in the near future.

P.S. welcome to boards OP

Kimia

I think that guys take your (and by your I mean us women not you personally) number after you kiss because they feel its expected of them. I don't think it means anything - it's only significant if they use it. Still give it to people (if you feel a connection) but I wouldn't get emotionally involved until they initiate contact.

The guy in Canada wanted an ego boost of you replying. That's why he asked 'do you miss me'. Whatever! A guy with a bit of confidence would never ask that unless he was flirting and if he was flirting he would continue the chat.

I'd say continue what you're doing, forget the guy in Canada, and don't let yourself get pulled into the games!! If you like someone, let them know and see what happens. If it doesn't work out, that's ok, there's lots more out there.

suzieb

I have a female friend who does this to guys all the time!

I had it out with her a few weeks ago about it and she hasn't done it since but its a pet hate of mine.

She'd be talking to guys on nights out and they'd ask for her number and she'd say no and they'd ask her to take theirs and she would cos would feel guilty.

So its not just the boys that do it... I prob done it myself when I was a young one ,but its horrible waiting for a text from someone that you fancy after a night out. Nothing worse than false hope...

LegacyUser

Your text mightnt have gotten to the guy in Canada. I text friends in the USA and they sometimes dont get the text for some reason.

dar83

How about the ladies that give out false numbers instead of just saying "No thanks". If you wanna talk about pet hates, there's a pretty big one of mine. If I'm big enough to ask for your number, I'm big enough to accept a rejection.

Happened to me just over a week ago as well. Nice chat, if not a little brief due to her being yanked away by a friend, saw her again, asked her for her number if she'd like me to have it. "Ok, yeah, sure" Went to contact her the next day and voila, fake! :rolleyes:

In relation to your situation, Canada guy might not have gotten that text, as others have said.

Deedsie

Well I got a number off a girl i met one night. Really pretty. Text her, met up again. Like her alot. Would like to text her but cant think of what to say to her now.

Definitely want to meet her again. But sitting here cannot think of what to say to her. Haven't text her since Saturday night.

LegacyUser

Deedsie wrote: »

Well I got a number off a girl i met one night. Really pretty. Text her, met up again. Like her alot. Would like to text her but cant think of what to say to her now.

Definitely want to meet her again. But sitting here cannot think of what to say to her. Haven't text her since Saturday night.

Just send a text asking her how she is and telling her that you'd like to meet her again.
If you find texting hard, just pick up the phone & call her. You've been out with her so you must get on well enough to have a phone conversation.

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Give him a call.

_sparkie_

did you use the international code? i sent a few messages before(while i was away) and wondered why they were not replied to. i forgot the code.

leggo

If you two are only texting, don't worry too much about it. It's a casual thing...there's a million and one reasons why he mightn't have written back...and none of them are probably what you're thinking. Just forget about it then see how things are when he gets back: not as if anything can happen while he's in Canada anyway.

If I ask for a number, I'll use it. If I know I'm not into them enough...I won't ask. If they offer, I'll take it but won't use it. And with the latter, I'm not breaking any promises by not doing so.

Some lads just like the ego buzz of having an extra number in their phone.

Some are drunk and can't remember what the girl looks like the next morning...so don't bother.

Some are just too shy and don't know what to say.

Again, not worth worrying about though, since you'll likely never get an honest answer. Think more about the people who are choosing to be in your life or want to do so...rather than the one's who aren't bothering. Life's too short to let the unknown get to you.

@Deedsie:
Don't open the text conversation with "I'd like to meet again." No offence unregistered, but I'd almost put money on that poster being a female. Why are you in a rush to put your cards on the table?

Don't just send "Hey what's up?" either. That's pointless. I rarely reply to messages that just say that. If I'm gonna devote time to texting someone...they'd wanna give me something more interesting than "Hey what's up?" to work with.

Text her something that brings you two back to where you were the night before. A joke you guys had...something that makes her instantly remember the fun times. A good personal example is, when I texted my last ex back for the first time, my message was: "I want my tie back woman!" (She'd taken my tie the night before and brought it home) It's funny, light-hearted and you can get to know her off the bat.

To me, texting to make plans right away shows a significant amount of insecurity. When I'm texting someone, I'm confident enough that the conversation will be fun and interesting then, when it comes time to make plans, we will. If I'm trying to lock them down for a date from the word 'go'...it's telling them that I want to rush them into it. **** that, you oughta be thinking along the lines of "Why should you go out with ME?"

GirlatdRockShow

Op,you don't sound neurotic,my friend was just giving out about the same thing the other day!the lads that take your number and don't txt are not worth giving out about!

Deedsie,just use the tipp charm to win her over!:p

Taltos

OP - I spent 3 wks recently in NZ and Aus.
Came back to mayhem... While I was away family member was frantically texting me and I got all 20+ texts when I turned on my mobile in Dublin Airport.

Weird thing is I had got some over there - but majority of their texts seemed to be waiting for my plane to land..

Did you try calling / email?

MyPeopleDrankTheSoup

Unregistered wrote: »

hey,first time poster,so sorry to the moderators if it's in the wrong place,but i just wanted to get some opinions on two things that have been bugging me lately!

1.Why do lads take your number on a night out and then not text? Is it because they feel they have to because you met(shifted,kissed,)??I don't mind if a lad dosen't ask me for my number,but if he does he's giving me hope that somethings going to happen!

2. Better give a bit of history to this one!I was lucky enough(haha) to be texting a guy who i had met a few times,we were texting every four days or so,usually initiated by him. Anyway he left for canada for the summer about a month,did'nt expect hear from him,wasn't bother by it or anything, but he text me about two weeks after he left,"hey babe,hows things?,miss me?,text me back on this number" I did,figured he was a little home sick,was being nice more than anything,and HE NEVER REPLIED!Why would he tell me to text him if he wasn't goin to reply?!

Anyway,sorry for the length,and for coming across as a bit neurotic!I'm really not that bad!;)

what time did the message came from canada? that's an obvious drunken message when he didn't score and has a horn and you popped into his head. we've all been there

JamesAlex

In response to question 1, I often take phone numbers for girls I meet in nightclubs and what not but I would only ring them if I was really interested in a relationship. A lot of the time I feel it would interfere with my time or I get nervous about what if I don't have anything in common with them. So to reply to your question guys do text, but only if they really like the girl.

beya2009

Well im a student so my response might be a bit different. I usually only ask girls numbers at a nite club if I was with them and will only text them again the next time im headin out to see if their headin out cos then its sex on a plate most of the time.

b28

Sorry for hearin that.
Maybe he text the wrong person or he's not into you