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A hairy little matter!!

  • 06-07-2009 10:23AM
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Need some male opinions here.

    On saturday night I stayed over with a guy I've recently started seeing for the first time. It was unplanned...so I didn't have myself groomed! Without going into too much detail...it has been a few months since i got waxed so I have a forrest situation going on (which will be sorted out this week)!!! He didn't seem to mind but I'm embarrassed about it!

    In a world of making good first impressions, is it something that could really turn you off someone?


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 15,914 ✭✭✭✭tbh


    no.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 645 ✭✭✭StopNotWorking


    God no.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,814 ✭✭✭Gone Drinking


    I'm not going to lie to you, while it mightened put me off the person, its certainly something i'd notice and think about after.

    Thats just my feeling on it, sorry!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 883 ✭✭✭davmol


    Unless it looks like you have chewbakka from star wars in a leg lock it wouldnt bother me.just get a good wax job done for your next encounter and show him that was a once off


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    God yes it would. Bad grooming (for either sex) is not acceptable in this day and age. Massive turn off


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 467 ✭✭aoibhebree


    It's a simple matter of individual taste! Some guys would be absolutely turned off by it. Others mightn't even notice, and may even prefer it that way. Your guy seems to be one of the latter. It doesn't seem to have put him off at all, so I wouldn't worry about it if I were you.


  • Hosted Moderators Posts: 10,661 ✭✭✭✭John Mason


    LOL - hair is completely natural and anyone who is turn off by it isnt worth your time getting to know IMHO


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    No dont be silly no guy would prefer it. They might turn a blind eye to it though. And if your groomed next time he probably won't be bothered over it


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,257 ✭✭✭✭Rabies


    LOL - hair is completely natural and anyone who is turn off by it isnt worth your time getting to know IMHO

    but its not the 70s anymore.
    A couple of months of growth is a lot.

    Most people prefer at least trimmed.

    Wouldn't be bothered if it was a one nighter, but if I was going back again then I'd be having second thoughts.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 467 ✭✭aoibhebree


    No dont be silly no guy would prefer it.

    Really? :rolleyes:

    Have a read of this and you might realise that there are a lot stranger things out there than men who prefer their women with the natural (as opposed to prepubescent) look!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    aoibhebree wrote: »
    Really? :rolleyes:

    Have a read of this and you might realise that there are a lot stranger things out there than men who prefer their women with the natural (as opposed to prepubescent) look!

    OP here again. Still blushing but that certainly puts my starwars creature and big knickers into perspective. But I'm soooooooooo embarrassed!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    aoibhebree wrote: »
    Really? :rolleyes:

    Have a read of this and you might realise that there are a lot stranger things out there than men who prefer their women with the natural (as opposed to prepubescent) look!

    Yeah there's also people in the world who like to have sex with goats but we're talking in general terms here and generally speaking men prefer well groomed women, end of


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 809 ✭✭✭Terodil


    Contact him, see if you two can get back together, and then groom yourself well before you do, case closed.

    We can all speculate here what 'he' prefers but nobody will be able to tell you except him. Our preferences have absolutely no bearing on the situation.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,487 ✭✭✭banquo


    I'd think that it was an unexpected thing and that you hadn't expected to need to 'groom'. But, since it wasn't 6 months growth I'd have known that you did shave there with at least some regularity and thus I'd put it down to a once-off. If you stay over again and you're smooth as silk down there then not only will he understand but he'll also be counting the hours until he sees you again ;)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,131 ✭✭✭Floppybits


    To the OP, it wouldnt put me off but let me ask you this was he groomed below?

    There are a lot of double standards and guys that like the women groomed should also do the same but is this the case?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Floppybits wrote: »
    To the OP, it wouldnt put me off but let me ask you this was he groomed below?

    There are a lot of double standards and guys that like the women groomed should also do the same but is this the case?

    He didn't appear to be. I would have known if he was shaven or that. he was just natural.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,131 ✭✭✭Floppybits


    He didn't appear to be. I would have known if he was shaven or that. he was just natural.

    So OP, if he isnt grooming below why should you be worried about it? From what you said in your original post he isnt worried about so I dont you should.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 141 ✭✭HPT


    OP here again. Still blushing but that certainly puts my starwars creature and big knickers into perspective. But I'm soooooooooo embarrassed!

    OP, tbh I'd be kinda surprised but it wouldn't bother me at all. ;)

    I can't help wondering though, how if you're THAT embarrassed by it you didn't just wait until the timing was better.

    I've heard women tell me that on any given night out that they know in advance how far things will go. They're usually referring to unshaven legs though. :rolleyes:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    As long as your clean i don't see what the issue is. I'm a guy and when i hear other guys saying "i couldn't be with a girl who doesn't trim down there", i have to wonder whats going on in their head. Its perfectly natural and normal to have pubic hair. Drop the guy like a hot potato if he brings it up. Hes not worth your attention if he makes an issue of it. You've nothing to be embarrassed about.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 8,078 ✭✭✭BKtje


    The first time my girlfriend stayed over it was unplanned as well (bad weather and no taxi's) and she was ina similar situation to you. Didn't bother me in the slightest though i could tell she was embaressed about it and kind of nervous.

    We are still together 8 months later and i'm leaving the country with her. To answer your question, it depends on the guy but if he really didn't seem to care about it then i really wouldn't worry. Hope it all works out for you :)


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    davmol wrote: »
    Unless it looks like you have chewbakka from star wars in a leg lock it wouldnt bother me.just get a good wax job done for your next encounter and show him that was a once off

    OMFG!! :D

    Same thing happened to me after having been single for over a year, I didn't bother with it, didn't put him off as such as we are together 2 years on but it did give him a bit of a fright and often sings welcome to the jungle to take the pee out of me. It has been sorted now!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,202 ✭✭✭partyguinness


    No...he might not even have noticed.

    You can always make a joke about it later when the relationship develops....although he may bring a strimmer with him next time.

    But as Roy Keane said "Fail to prepare prepare to failure"...dont let it happen again...:)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 718 ✭✭✭Porkpie


    Would it turn me off someone? Yes, it would, tbh. On the up side, no deforestation would indicate to me that your sex life hasn't been very active, thus less chance of contracting std's :D. Seriously though, I really don't see what the big deal is as long as you get it trimmed for the next time. When you're with him next make sure to give him a good 'ta-da!'


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,308 ✭✭✭✭the_syco


    If it were a date, it may look bad, but an unexpected rumble in the jungle, meh, once the forest doesn't block access to the cave, all is good.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,942 ✭✭✭topper75


    aoibhebree wrote: »
    Really? :rolleyes:

    Have a read of this and you might realise that there are a lot stranger things out there than men who prefer their women with the natural (as opposed to prepubescent) look!

    A certain influential industry (how's it going Hugh!) seems to be pushing that prepubescent look. I'm into women, and am happy to leave teenage girls to teenage boys .

    What have you to be embarrassed about? Some deluded posters are virtually equating it with body odour. It's not bad grooming. There is no obligation for girls to shave there.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,611 ✭✭✭Karen_*


    Don't let it happen again OP, the sky might fall in. Is it really such a big deal that you offend someones preferences? He's dating you the person and not your talent with a razor blade or waxing strip.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,884 ✭✭✭Eve_Dublin


    banquo wrote: »
    I'd think that it was an unexpected thing and that you hadn't expected to need to 'groom'. But, since it wasn't 6 months growth I'd have known that you did shave there with at least some regularity and thus I'd put it down to a once-off. If you stay over again and you're smooth as silk down there then not only will he understand but he'll also be counting the hours until he sees you again ;)

    Shaven?? Really? Last time I'd absolutely no hair down there was when I was 12. If I came across a guy with a preference for hairless women, I'd find THAT a major turn off personally. Call me crazy but I definitely wouldn't SHAVE that area with any regularity. Jaysus...could you imagine shaving your own public hair, banquo? Not pleasant...itchy, stubbly...ugh.

    The demand for hairless women is going a bit mad now...I know a girl who has very fair light hairs on her arms and she gets them waxed!! I've met a few girls doing the same! When will it end?? We'll be shaving our eyebrows off next and resemble hairless moon-monkeys.

    As someone else said, men don't realise they need tame themselves down there as well, particularly if they're expecting oral sex...sorry to be graphic here but it's as unpleasant for us to get a mouth full of hair as it is for you.

    We've all been caught out though, OP. Nothing to feel embarassed about, it's just a bit of hair and not some contagious STD. I'd say cleanliness matters to more men than a bit of hair. If he avoid you for this reason, then feck him.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,202 ✭✭✭partyguinness


    I cant wait for the day that Irish women embrace the concept of professional waxing as opposed to shaving.

    Stubbly pubes is worse than a hairy one IMO.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,883 ✭✭✭shellyboo


    I cant wait for the day that Irish women embrace the concept of professional waxing as opposed to shaving.

    That day's just one lottery win away for me. Any idea how much it costs?


    OP, seriously, it's not a big deal. If he's that immature that he can't cope with a bit of entirely natural hair, then he's not worth bothering about, really. It's one thing to express a preference for hairless once he's in a relationship with you, but aside from serous bfs, nobody gets to have any input on how you keep your pubic hair except for you.

    So chill :)


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,884 ✭✭✭Eve_Dublin


    I cant wait for the day that Irish women embrace the concept of professional waxing as opposed to shaving.

    Stubbly pubes is worse than a hairy one IMO.

    I think a lot of Irish women have already partyguinness but are you talking thw whole lot off or just a tidy up?

    I would love to see any man handle the pain of a wax on one of the most sensitive parts of their bodies. As a woman, I'm not diggin' this concept of "beauty is pain". NO man is worth pain to fit their idea of beauty. Feck that!

    Yep and as shellyboo said above, waxing is expensive. I can think of a lot more exciting things to spend my hard-earned cash on.


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