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LegacyUser

Hey just want your opinion ,im meeting a girl for a date next week,we seem to get on well she in her mid 30s while im 25,i dont mind the age gap but she has two kids aged 11 and 9 .do you think this meet up is a good idea or could it be a disaster shes a sound girl ,its abit much and im unsure how to handle this .Advice needed

lynsalot

Hi OP,

It depends on what u want. Is she looking for commitment? If she's been explicit that she's looking for that and if u know u aren't, then it's pretty clear. Maybe meet up for fun but it is a huge commitment to take on. is it something you're willing to take on if it works out between u.

The fact that you're asking kinda shows that u aren't. maybe meet up once more and see how it goes. u should be able to guage what she's looking for. Maybe speak to her about it? Not in a derogatory sense but explain you're anxious.

Adamisconfused

Go on the date and have a good time. Find out what you can about her and see how you guys get on. She may just be looking for fun and friendship.
Sort out your own mind and what you want. If you don’t want to start a relationship with an older woman who has two kids then don’t.

At twenty-five, I’d say you’d be crazy to even consider any type of relationship with her. That's just my view on it. Besides, she mightn’t see you as LTR material anyway. Take things one step at a time.

Oh The Humanity

lol Dont worry yourself about it OP. Go out and have a good time.

The main stumbling block with older woman/younger man age gap relationships is she wants kids he doesn't but in this case, she already has 2 God forbids so happy days.

Go out and enjoy yourself.

These age gap relationships (woman in 30's men in 20's) are so common nowadays due to a shortage of single men in their 30's women are dating fellas in their 20's all the time. Its hardly even remarkable any more.

Enjoy yourself and treat it like any other date because it is!

LegacyUser

No I wouldn't even get involved here. Two kids = lot of baggage. And at 25 you don't need to be taking on someone elses kids. You may think, ah sure its only one date but think about it if you actually start falling for the girl and then these pesky kids are in the equation. It will only wreck your head in the long run. Plenty of single women in there twentys out there looking for a nice lad like yourself you don't need to go down this route

Oh The Humanity

Cripes, give the poor girl a chance!

Its not even the first date yet, dont be talking about him 'taking on her kids'.....they may just want to have some fun together! I doubt she wants a 25 year old thinking thoughts like that, she is very likely very happy with her life as it is and just wants a few dates/some fun!

Everything doesn't have to lead to marriage!

Go on the date, if you like her and the two of you want to have some fun then make hay while the sun shines!!!

LegacyUser

Oh The Humanity wrote: »

Cripes, give the poor girl a chance!

Its not even the first date yet, dont be talking about him 'taking on her kids'.....they may just want to have some fun together! I doubt she wants a 25 year old thinking thoughts like that, she is very likely very happy with her life as it is and just wants a few dates/some fun!

Everything doesn't have to lead to marriage!

Go on the date, if you like her and the two of you want to have some fun then make hay while the sun shines!!!

Well yeah if its just fun then yeah by all means. Just be careful though, find out her expectation from the off and don't be getting in to deep because thats when it could get messy

Oh The Humanity

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Well yeah if its just fun then yeah by all means. Just be careful though, find out her expectation from the off and don't be getting in to deep because thats when it could get messy

Exactly find out her expectation first. I would imagine its fun she is after.