What should I do?

LegacyUser

Hi my boyfriend of 2 years hasnt introduced me to any of his family or friends. They know that he is seeing someone, just dont know its me.

I know his parents to see and say hello thats it. They dont know me and there son are together.

I have mentioned it a couple of times to him and he just says they dont care who im seeing.

Its not a major problem, only pops up sometimes - like to nite there was a last minute family dinner, and he cancelled our nite out. They are all just in our local bar right now, brothers, sisters and partners and im at home in my room on Boards talkin to you guys.

Kinda p*ssed off at the mo. What do you think i should say to him when he calls over tomorrow? What would you do? Suppose i only have myself to blame for allowing it to go on this long.

LegacyUser

Go down the pub and join them.......sink or swim!

VaioCruiser

There is a difference between not bringing you home specially - and actively shutting you out.

This sounds like the latter and after 2 years I honestly think it needs to be tackled.

All the best.

Kimia

I agree with the above - he does seem to be shutting you out. It's very strange that after 2 years he still hasn't introduced you properly or asked you to join him when he meets his family.

Why don't you say it to him? You're together 2 years now, not 2 months. Surely you know him well enough to raise the issue? And if not, well that's a whole other problem...

herya

Unregistered wrote: »

Its not a major problem, only pops up sometimes - like to nite there was a last minute family dinner, and he cancelled our nite out. They are all just in our local bar right now, brothers, sisters and partners and im at home in my room on Boards talkin to you guys.

What he does is rude and bad manners, also disrespectful to both you and his family. Unless his family is dysfunctional (doesn't look this way if they are all having dinner together) or he doesn't treat you seriously (does he?). I'd really talk to him about it - he doesn't have to make a big fuss out of it but a brief acknowledgment would be a proper thing to do.

Does he have any reasons to be so secretive?

LegacyUser

i had this problem before. it turned out to be because he was seeing other girls also. He wasn't bringing them to the family do's either but he had been seen by an uncle one time with a different girl etc. Coupled with all this. He was just immature and didn't want to go through the hassle of bringing the girl to meet the family etc.

What he's doing (not bringing you along) is disrespectful. You deserve better. Unless he changes his ways, dump him.