Never had a relationship

LegacyUser

Hi all

Well as the title says I've never had a relationship and just wondering if there are many others in my situation? I'm a 26 y/o girl, have lots of good friends and have been told I'm good looking. I'm very sociable and love going out but I've just never met anyone I've wanted to be serious with. Am I being too picky? I've casually dated a few guys (the longest lasting about 2 months) and I've had a couple of flings but in all of these cases I haven't been that bothered to be honest. I'm getting quite worried that I'll never meet anyone especially as I'm at the age when my friends are starting to settle down. I don't have alot of confidence which is probably part of the problem too.

Anyway just wanted to know if I'm destined for a life with cats or if there are many others in my situation?? Also are guys put off by girls who haven't been in a relationship at this stage? Would love some advice!

LimeFruitGum

I don't think guys would be too put off and in any case, people can get uncomfortable discussing "numbers".
Anyway, if I were you, I wouldn't bring it up at all unless I was asked.
There's nothing wrong in staying single instead of settling with someone you're not all that mad about.

Nolanger

Count yourself lucky - bet no-one else has been hassled by a priest who was having sex with your ex-girlfriend.

barleybooley

You're 26? Enjoy yourself before you feel like settling down Nothing strange about you my dear

Salome

Just because your friends are settling down, it doesn't mean you're hurtling towards spinsterhood and a life of cats. You might meet someone next week, next month, next year that makes you want to settle down but until you do, don't feel you HAVE to.

podmu80

If you've been told that your pretty, then what is the confidence issue about? You said you have dated in the past so clearly have no problems attracting guys. Maybe you are a bit picky, which i wouldn't worry too much about (many irish ladies are!), plus your only 26, you can continue being picky for a few more years yet!! Guys aren't put off by it either by the way.

VaioCruiser

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Hi all

Well as the title says I've never had a relationship and just wondering if there are many others in my situation? I'm a 26 y/o girl, have lots of good friends and have been told I'm good looking. I'm very sociable and love going out but I've just never met anyone I've wanted to be serious with. Am I being too picky? I've casually dated a few guys (the longest lasting about 2 months) and I've had a couple of flings but in all of these cases I haven't been that bothered to be honest. I'm getting quite worried that I'll never meet anyone especially as I'm at the age when my friends are starting to settle down. I don't have alot of confidence which is probably part of the problem too.

Anyway just wanted to know if I'm destined for a life with cats or if there are many others in my situation?? Also are guys put off by girls who haven't been in a relationship at this stage? Would love some advice!

It is easy to say blandly... don't worry... all is fine. Because you are not fine with it and I understand why. You are worried and a bit lonely and time is ticking....
I am not saying it is any kind of crisis. But I think you are right to be concerned and to start thinking about tackling the situation. I think this is the first step to finding your way to your future.

I am guessing that, for a start, you probably need to be meeting more guys... though clubs, evening classes, socialising. Also some self assessment as to what you think it is about the guys you have been with that left you so luke warm ?

On the topic of other guys being put off. Of course not !! And anyway .. how would they know ? Why would you tell them ? it is not anyone's business. We all have baggage and things we do not make a big deal about.

MJOR

People only know what you tell them.... When I was 26 I'd only had one semi long termer... Don't stress it! Don't settle for someone for the sake of bring in a relationship.... It'll happen when it happens