Confused about girlfriend

LegacyUser

To summarise the story. Wednesday evening I meet my girlfriend after work, we've been going out for almost 15 months.

We go back to my place and lie down on my bed and throw on a DVD. Some fooling around, playing tickling etc for a while, laughing and giggling and all that couplely stuff. I really enjoyed the evening with her and I think she did too. Around 20:30 I drive her home (I was going to be meeting some friends of mine at 21:00, was usual Wed night for me that she always knows about (and I had texted her during the day letting her know if was on this week) but I missed a few weeks and this would be the last meet up for a few more weeks).

In the car she was very quiet and barely spoke to me. So I just dropped her home and headed off to meet the lads. During the day my gf had brought a 4 pack of cupcakes in M&S and I was bringing the remaining 3 to the lads, bought myself and gf are trying to loss a small bit of weight so just shared one while watching the DVD.

Sent the usual texts that night after I got home letting her know and went to sleep.

Yesterday went as usual, texted from the bus to work etc. No texts from her. Nothing that hasn't happened before (low battery, no credit etc) so didn't give much thought to it and sent the odd text during the day (going for lunch etc). Tried to ring during lunch, no answer, after work, no answer).

We were going to be going out with some friends of hers'. She decided not to come out and I got a text saying as much and ended with "I'm sure you and the girls will be fine without me".

I texted back " Will I call out to you now?"

Her: "I don't want to see you. Go have fun with xxxxx. See you tomorrow for (a show tonight)"

Me: can't remember exactly but something like "Was she worried I preferred spending time with her friends than with her, or if she was annoyed we didn't have dinner on Wednesday night, and if we could talk on the phone later?"

I think I tried to phone her then and she hung up before answering

Her: "I don't want to talk to you. Just leave me alone"

I haven't texted back since that

Her 10 minutes later: No I don't think you enjoy being with me friends more then me, that's rediculos (her spelling mistake not mine, I thought it was kind of funny) and I'm not that insecure"

So after that I went out with her friends, played some xbox and went to bed, haven't heard anything from her since.

And that's it. I don't think I'm leaving anything out.

I'm a very reasonable person and sometimes I tend to annoy people by refusing to take a side on an argument and will look at the good points both sides have but nothing to do with that has come up in ages. I'm just really confused not about what's going on.

ManOfMystery

IMO she needs to grow up, she's giving you the silent treatment for some reason and it's definitely not obvious - it doesn't sound like you did anything out of order at all. I would ask her flat out what her problem is.

VaioCruiser

Hi OP...

Maybe her mother is sick ? or an uncle died ? or she is having a rally bad period ?

"I don't want to see you. Go have fun with xxxxx. See you tomorrow for (a show tonight)"

That sounds very reasonable to me. You should have left it at that and asked her the next time you see her for the show.

All the best.

Kiera

She’s probably peed off cause you were having such a nice night and then you went out with your mates instead of staying with her. I know you told her all about it but I’ve a feeling that this is the reason. If you ask her what’s wrong I’m guessing she’ll say “nothing”.

Just leave her to her little strop. She’ll get in contact when she realises you’re not playing her childish game.

Monkey61

Sounds to me like she's sulking and acting like a complete child over something, which is not appropriate behaviour for a mature and adult relationship. I don't think it is very fair to text someone saying "I just don't want to talk to you. Leave me alone". You have been going out for 15 months for God's sake - after which she should certainly be able to tell you that a family member had died or somebody was sick.

I would ask for an explanation and then tell her in no uncertain terms that you will not put up with childishness like that.

messygirl

I would be annoyed you took my goddamn cupcakes! seriously though if she bought them did she tell you to give them to the lads or did you take them? just wondering in general...

If she wants you not to talk to her, just leave her be for the moment. Text her "i know you dont want to talk to me but i would really like to talk to you cos you are obviously upset, give me a ring when you are ready, x" and then forget about it, if you dont hear from her in a week she doesnt want you. No contact after a week test her and say"you havent contacted me in a week, i take it you want to finish it?if you wanted to be with me you would tell me what i did"

I get jealous sometimes, we all do but not talking about it is not the way to go!

galwaybob

What a fcuking tool.:rolleyes:

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annon123

She sounds very young and immature.
Id would agree that she is probably annoyed you left her to go out with your mates. Does this happen often? Id give her time to cool off, dont go running after her. When she realises she's being stroppy she will come back. Just sit her down and ask her to tel you exactly what is bothering her. I know i used to let things boil up within me when something in a relationship was annoying me and then the slightest thing would set me off. Silly i know. but when you talk it out it never seems as bad

give her time,
and good luck