Apologized. Still feel like an A@$&%le

JohnnyQuid

Ok so I screwed up recently with a cuple of girls I know.I apologized to them 3 times,twice verbally and once by writing the apology on an airline sick bag,I know it seems like something you'd see happen in a movie,but I was fortunate enough to sit beside both of them on the plane journey back home,all the other people that were with us knew I was gonna make a big apology to them but I got nervous so I wrote it on the bag.The girls did accept my apology all 3 times and agreed we could be friends again.Even though I apologized to them from the bottom of heart and I was wearing my heart on my sleeve,which if you know me is very uncommon,I still feel like an absolute sh1thead for what I did.I've been losing sleep aswell with the guilt.Is it normal to feel like this?

gobo99

JohnnyQuid wrote: »

Ok so I screwed up recently with a cuple of girls I know.I apologized to them 3 times,twice verbally and once by writing the apology on an airline sick bag,I know it seems like something you'd see happen in a movie,but I was fortunate enough to sit beside both of them on the plane journey back home,all the other people that were with us knew I was gonna make a big apology to them but I got nervous so I wrote it on the bag.The girls did accept my apology all 3 times and agreed we could be friends again.Even though I apologized to them from the bottom of heart and I was wearing my heart on my sleeve,which if you know me is very uncommon,I still feel like an absolute sh1thead for what I did.I've been losing sleep aswell with the guilt.Is it normal to feel like this?

It depends, what did you do?

JohnnyQuid

gobo99 wrote: »

It depends, what did you do?

Ok so I don't really want to say what I did except for I got jealous,overreacted and the situation sort of went way out of porportion cos too many people got involved as a cause of me overreacting

Agent J

JohnnyQuid wrote: »

Ok so I don't really want to say what I did except for I got jealous,overreacted and the situation sort of went way out of porportion cos too many people got involved as a cause of me overreacting

Sorry. It depends on what you did before anyone can say.....

Was it bad or just embarrassing?

random.stranger

Eh, whatever you did, you apologised 3 times- the girls accepted it 3 times. Apologising again isn't going to do any good, it'll probably make the girls feel akward.

I am a pro at embarassing myself on front of girls & one thing I've noticed along the way is the bigger the deal you make of it- the bigger a deal everybody else believes it is.

Leave it in the past- stop torturing yourself and the girls.

Toots

Well they accepted your apology so I'd say you're forgiven. Just make sure you learn from the experience. Next time you feel you're going to act the same way again, remember how bad you're feeling now, and think twice about it.

JohnnyQuid

Agent J wrote: »

Was it bad or just embarrassing?

It was very bad for me and very embarassing for them,that's basically all i'm gona say at the moment.

random stranger and toots,thanks for the advice I definetly won't forget how sh1ty I feel now incase it happens again

lukesmom

From the sounds of it you did something awful. I would just be sure that they know how truly sorry you are for what you did and how much you regret it and then leave it at that. You have apologised 3 times and they have accepted. Now you both need to move on, this takes time and unfortunately it will not happen overnight. You both need to make sense of what happened in your own heads and in time you will be friends again. Everyone screws up once in a while, at least you have been man enough to say sorry and admit that you were wrong. If, like you said they have accepted your apology then it should be the end of it.

KittyeeTrix

OP, it's human nature to do some very terrible shi**y things, but as you have said, you have apologised and the girls involved seem to have accepted your apology...
I would say that you are punishing yourself needlessly so just try over the next few days to remind yourself that the girls have forgiven you and try to let go of the blame, you will be fine!!

tbh

it sounds to me like you're a bit of a drama queen to be honest. If you have apologised, most likely the girls just want to forget about it. I'd drop it if I were you.

Das Kitty

OP, they forgive you. Time to forgive yourself.

Carsinian Thau

They've forgiven you. Leave it in the past.

If you can't do that, leave it in the past for them and work things out on your own.

Unfortunately, guilt can take a while to subside. Try not to torture yourself while you wait.

d'Oracle

Im frickin pro at this OP.

Here is a trick.
Sit on your own.

Think about the entire event.
When that piercing feeling, the one that makes you want to shout something to distract your mind from the embarrassment, comes along brush it aside.

Do your best to accept the fact that you did the deed. Allow your self to be horrified at your behaviour. Then tell yourself that you apologised, everybody ****s up and that you don't really have anything to be embarrassed about.

Repeat untill it stops being such a rotten feeling.

It has worked countless times for me.

tbh

OP, if you were in the same situation again, would you do the same thing? No? Well, then you're sorted. It's a life lesson. You'll have tons of them. Then one day someone will ask you what's the most embarrassing thing that's ever happened to you and you'll tell this story and everyone will laugh. Including you.

random.stranger

JohnnyQuid wrote: »

It was very bad for me and very embarassing for them,that's basically all i'm gona say at the moment.

random stranger and toots,thanks for the advice I definetly won't forget how sh1ty I feel now incase it happens again

Glad to be of help JohnnyQuid.

If it's a matter of the heart, it might help you & them to move on by keeping your distance for a few weeks.

Gives you a bit of breathing space to get things into perspective.

I hope it all works out for you.