Friend of a friend is dying, need advice

LegacyUser

I am sorry if this is not very neat, I really need advice, please.
I have an internet friend, who has knows this guy who recently was diagnosed with a brain tumour, and was given one month to live.
This guy was in love with my friend. My friend liked him also, but wanted to wait to see if he was serious about moving to her country, which he was planning to do.
Then came the terrible news that he had a brain tumour and it couldn't be operated on.

My friend has already lost a parent to cancer, and had serious trouble getting over that. As you can imagine, she is in a terrible state.

Today she found that he is already unconcious. She learnt this coincidently as the guys friend was online with his account and told her he was unconcious.

I may come across as seriously ignorant, but i naturally think of the alternatives. The first thought i got when i heard about the friend using his account, I thought it could be just a story. Perhaps he wanted out of the relationship and did it in a very cruel way?

The thing is, should i tell my friend, that I think it could be a cruel hoax? Or do I let it run its course???

Thank you so much for any help

Patrick

Victor

See #4 here: http://www.cracked.com/article_17522_6-new-personality-disorders-caused-by-internet.html

Amazotheamazing

My girlfriends sister died of a brain tumour last year, her last month was pretty horrible and it didn't extend to sitting around online telling people in other countries she was dying. There's just too much to do, the hospital, the shattered family, the treatments to kill the incredible pain she was going through, the inability to eat, the constitipation, the entire horrible thing. It might be true, but i doubt it.

chickenhawk

Why would his friend need his facebook account when his friend is lying there dying?? He's lying.

Dan Chipowski

You'd be better off just telling your friend she is being played for a fool. This sort of thing is all too common in 'internet land', and vulnerable people fall for it.

You'd be better just to tell her, she may react badly, but you owe it to her.

LegacyUser

I met a girl when i was travelling so told me that she had given her best friend at home the password to her e mail account in case anything ever happened to her, so this friend would be able to let all of her friends know.
this guys friend may have being doing the same thing. Does he have a face book page she could check or something!

CathyMoran

Hmm, not sure if I am reading this correctly - your friend who we will call A has a friend who we will call B who is dying from cancer and another friend C was online? Or was it that C was using the account of B? My head hurts...

If either of these cases are true then there is a good chance that he really is ill - people who have an ill loved one do actually go home the odd time and there is such a thing as mobile internet. One of my best friend's lost his dad recently and he did let me know about it. My husband did post when I was in ICU (he did go home occasionally, he was going home to our house alone and sleeping in our bed without me - sorry it still brings tears to me 26 months later knowing that I could not be there for him) and he did have my account details in case anything happened to me. Also terrible things can and do happen to people - people can have a long bad run of things.

OK, maybe I am giving the benefit of the doubt but I would believe that B is telling the truth...the horrible thing is that she will know soon enough if she finds out that there is no death notice and also I can not believe that anyone would be sick enough to fake cancer to get out of a relationship.

LegacyUser

cathymoran; c was using the account of B.


now he is awake and is already out of hospital less than a day later.

Another thing is he said he was moving to her country and had got a job as a team doctor for a proffesional football club.....

LegacyUser

I told her.


it all came to a head, she was emailing the guy, tonight, when suddenly he typed that he could not move and could not call an ambulance. He didn't ask for help.
He could still type though!

So I told her my worries, and she said she had considered it.
Then she said he was shown to be offline. so he even had time to log off!

I am not fairly sure that he was hoaxing, and i think she is aware of it now.


anyway, thanks for the advice, i will update when i hear more of it....

CathyMoran

Sorry, did not know the full facts - yes, it seems like he is faking it unfortuatly...