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Text etiquette

  • 01-07-2009 5:31pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Just to fill in a bit of background to this situation, I've been really good friends with a girl i met this year in college. I'm single and see her as a really good friend but nothing more. She has boyfriend who is very strange and frankly suffocating her. We had a big discussion months back when it turned out that she has feelings for me but we worked through it and sorted it all out. 6 months on and we're still great mates.

    Anyway a while ago she said that after showing her bf, a mutual friend and some other of her friends she said that they all told her that we texted too much. We did text pretty much on a daily basis with her initiating most of the texts. I had no problem with it and texted back just as much but didn't mind if she felt that she needed to cut back. Anyway now we text the odd time but recently she's been texting me out of the blue with slightly random texts and when i reply she never texts back.

    Is it just me or is this a bit strange/rude? I'm not sure what to make of it all as in the year I've known her she's never acted like this although I may well be just reading a lot into nothing.


Comments

  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    What do you mean by slightly random texts, can you elaborate on this point?


  • #3
    wylo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,214 ✭✭✭wylo


    If its a pointless random text then just dont bother replying, but tbh your friends are right, you two were probably texting too much anyway for people that a: were not going out/seeing each other, b: a situation of unrequited feelings.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    By slightly random i mean texts with just one word "bored" etc.

    As for the "unrequited feelings" thing, i think i just enjoyed the attention really but i dont feel as if i've lead her on or anything.


  • #5
    wylo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,214 ✭✭✭wylo


    well i wouldnt bother replying to those kind of texts , unless it was only once in a while, sounds like shes looking for a bit of attention too.


  • #6
    Greenmachine
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,063 ✭✭✭Greenmachine


    wylo wrote: »
    well i wouldnt bother replying to those kind of texts , unless it was only once in a while, sounds like shes looking for a bit of attention too.

    Agreed, have you tried speaking to her at all about the issue.


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    You could well be right, i think I'll just be ignoring them in the future.

    No haven't talked to her about it but i suppose i could sort of slip it into conversation next time we meet up.


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