Memories of the ex...

LegacyUser

Just wondering do people keep pictures and other stuff from past relationships, even when they start a new one.

Found out my fella keeps pictures and other stuff from the ex, broke up a long time ago. It really upset (I didn't see the stuff, but know where it is). I never let him know it upset me, but I can't stop thinking about it now.

Another thing is that we've been together 2years and he has no pics of me. Just makes it all seem like he hasn't let go.

I also realise I'm probably over-reacting, I don't have any major exes in my life (none than make me want to keep momentos of them anyway). Just wondering I suppose if it's normal for a person in serious relationship to keep stuff from a past relationship.

Thanks

puglover

Personally I don't, but it could be just me. As far as I'm concerned, the past is in the past and no point hanging on to it. Especially if I felt it would bother my new partner(I can totally understand how it would).

I live in the present, and would much rather making new memories with the people who are in my life now, and hopefully will be there for a long time to come.

But everyone is different and some people just like to keep memories. I can't understand it myself so I'm probably not much help.

Novella

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Just wondering do people keep pictures and other stuff from past relationships, even when they start a new one.

Found out my fella keeps pictures and other stuff from the ex, broke up a long time ago. It really upset (I didn't see the stuff, but know where it is). I never let him know it upset me, but I can't stop thinking about it now.

Another thing is that we've been together 2years and he has no pics of me. Just makes it all seem like he hasn't let go.

I also realise I'm probably over-reacting, I don't have any major exes in my life (none than make me want to keep momentos of them anyway). Just wondering I suppose if it's normal for a person in serious relationship to keep stuff from a past relationship.

Thanks

To be honest, I have kept things belonging to all of my exes. I have photographs and letters and things. I don't feel that it is me hanging on to the past or anything like that. I believe that it is the past that makes us who we are so why would I want to disregard it? Your boyfriend is with you now and that's what matters.

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If he has pictures of her hanging up on the wall, or even in his wallet then that's a bit weird.

If he has them in a drawer, with other photos then it's no big deal.

Jesus, my SO was going through some old holiday snaps that she had put on disc recently, so she could stick them up on facebook. There were pictures of her ex on the disc. That wasn't weird, that was a part of her life that I wasn't part of, in the past. The present is what matters.

Nervous Wreck

I have pictures, postcards, presents, memories, love letters etc from one of my exes that I keep in a box on the top shelf in my wardrobe. Don't see myself ever throwing them out tbh. She was my first love and they're happy memories. I dunno what the future's gonna bring but I like that stuff from the past. Doesn't mean I'm holding on to her, they're just keepsakes.... My most recent ex, I still have photos of but they're pics from our holiday together and I couldn't throw out holiday pics! I did take them down off my wall pretty quick though and stuck them in with a bung of other photos in my drawer.

Wouldn't worry about it at all OP. Get some pics of yourself into his life though.