I want to see a therapist

LegacyUser

Basically, it's in the title.


I want to see a therapist... how do I approach my parents? On the outside... I'm quite a bubbly person so this may be a surprise.

loopyloulou

How old are you that you need to tell your parents?? Can you not just go yourself, they may never need to know.

If it is a case that you want to tell them just sit them down and let them know that youre having difficulty working through a few things and would like some help from a professional. Maybe they'll try to help you themselves but sometimes you just need to talk to someone who doesnt know you before you can work stuff out in your head.
Best of Luck

Milky Moo

The best thing to do is sit down and tell your parents,they will probably be abit shocked and worried but like most parents they will be supportive and want what is best for you.

After that go see your GP and ask for a referral or at least some numbers as counsellor(or some variations of the word) arn't a protected term and anyone can put it up on their door,so he/she will know who is legit.

Talking from experience it isn't just walk in off the street and talk for an hour a week and then you are better after a few sessions.

It takes commitment and it is alot of hard work and it's usually about changing how you are thinking on a day to day basis,if you are ready for all that things will eventually get better.

Good luck and well done on taking the first step and admitting you need help,some people never get there!

LegacyUser

I'm 18...but I dont have money to go to someone myself.
Maybe I don't need to see someone, all I know is I don't like myself, I have no idea what's going on in my head, I'm paranoid, and I feel like crap

loopyloulou

Aww petal. Take the time out to go see someone and get to love yourself. Tell your parents and maybe a close friend but to be honest nobody else needs to know. Just dont expect results overnight, you'll need to put the work in as the other poster said and you'll be taught how to change your negative thought process...It works, believe me :)

Victor

Do you mean a psychotherapist?

Depressed? wrote: »

how do I approach my parents?

I think do it fairly straightforward, perhaps one at a time. Sit down and have a general chat over a cup of tea, bring up that you haven't been feeling great and mention that you would like to see someone about it and would they be able to support you financially.

Rushing in, making a scene, demanding money and running off, might not be the best way of doing it.

LegacyUser

I wasn't planning on doing so, Victor!

I'm just always the together one... I'm never involved in the major family arguements, when everyone's crying or shouting, it just seems to rebound off me. They think I'm basically made of stone.

The thing is... if I do bring it up... it'll never be let go. I don't wanna do the whole "OH LETS SHARE EMOTION" thing with my family

Victor

Unregistered wrote: »

I wasn't planning on doing so, Victor!

Not to worry.

Yes, it might be scary to have to open up, even if its only a small bit to those around you, but lets face it, you already feel bad, this should help it.

And if you want to, explain to your parents, that the whole lovey dovey thing would be difficult. Is there someone else to talk to that you can possibly bring along - a sibling, friend, school guidance counsellor, an aunt or uncle?

mysterious

Depressed? wrote: »

Basically, it's in the title.


I want to see a therapist... how do I approach my parents? On the outside... I'm quite a bubbly person so this may be a surprise.

I know a fairly cheap place would you like me to pm you the detais

Sounds like you need to meet a psychotherapist. The rates vary from 12 to 20 euro per session. It's really up to what you can afford.

LegacyUser

OK, i'll PM you in a moment, thanks.

I tried talking to her a little while ago...she asked why I seemed so down and I just couldn't get it out, and she was like.. oh its probably jsut the anticlimax from the exams.. and I couldn't bring myself to say.. OH ive felt like **** for ages.

Yes Victor... I could bring one of my friend(best) but she's recovering from an eating disorder so it might be a bit mean to put it on her. My aunty also possibly

Victor

mysterious wrote: »

I know a fairly cheap place would you like me to pm you the detais

Sounds like you need to meet a psychotherapist. The rates vary from 12 to 20 euro per session. It's really up to what you can afford.

That sounds awfully cheap, with many psychotherapists charging €50-70 per hour. Realise you get what you pay for - although sometimes you don't even get that.

Also beware of sending persons unknown (no offence mysterious) your personal information or identity.

LegacyUser

Will do.


I can't ask my parents for that much...

jimmid098

mixed up feelings are very natural at your time in life try not get too down about it i think you just need good friends and company maybe your best fiends eating disorder effected you as well the trouble with being the one who lets everything roll off them is eventually it will take its toll

Bottle_of_Smoke

Also you can get your thoughts out here if you need to. Not the same as talking to someone but still helpful.

Also if you're going to college in September you'd get a free one there/

LegacyUser

Maybe I could wait till September then, (am starting in college).

There just seems to be nothing that's actually OK in my life, no respite

jimmid098

My wife suffered terribly with low self esteem for many years maybe talking to her might help you overcome these feelings if you pm me i can pass on her email add to you she has been reading your posts and feels she may be able to help sometimes help and understanding can come from non professional people too

Victor

jimmid098 wrote: »

My wife suffered terribly with low self esteem for many years maybe talking to her might help you overcome these feelings if you pm me i can pass on her email add to you she has been reading your posts and feels she may be able to help sometimes help and understanding can come from non professional people too

I'm not sure if thats the right way to go about things. Its much better with a professional, a publicly known group like AWARE or with someone the OP knows.

LegacyUser

If you can wait until September then nobody will have to know. My life has changed so much by going to the College Councillor. My parents don't know a thing so I don't have the constant checking up on me, but they can see a changed person in me. Also The Samaratins are great if u you could give them a call and release some of the feelings you've been keeping locked up inside or you can email them also