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Depression in family and financial crisis

  • 01-07-2009 1:01pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hello,

    A member of my family has recently become depressed, he is in his 40's no wife kids, and has become very hard to get hold of. We all try to do everything we can to help him in ways of support, both personal and financial, but nothing seems to work. We think we've tried it all doctors, councilors everything. It's easy for us to say forget about the money and move on but when your in his situation you don't see it like that.

    Is there any advice anyone has to help pull him back into our family as this really is heartbreaking to see him like this.

    Thanks.


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  • #2
    Kipperhell
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    I am sorry to hear of your situation. It seems you may not understand what depression really means. It is an illness which can flare up on occasion and there is no cure. The best that can be done is management and avoiding triggers where possible. The common use of depression to describe sadness often makes people think it is easy to "snap out" of it. It can be very serious often leading people into financial situations as drugs, alcohol and gambling are often self remedies which have there own issues.

    It is commendable that you want to help but often time is the only help. Comparable to a serious car crash you can't expect somebody to be better just by helping there is healing process that has to happen. It may be advisable to seek financial advise through MABS (think that is the organisation) or similar.

    It is not uncommon for people in depression to be aware of people frustration and as they tend to be hyper sensitive you should be careful what you say and react to. It is very easy for somebody with depression to take on extra pressure.


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