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confession after a woman has an abortion

  • 30-06-2009 6:26pm
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    decembersun77
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    I am wondering where do catholic women when they are sorry for having abortion and suffering because of it. its a big sin and i believe it would be very hard to find a priest who is non judgmental for confession. is there any where christian women can go who are suffering alot from what they did, i dont know anywhere like this. if you know it would be helpful


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  • #2
    ~me~
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    most well woman centres offer free advice and post abortion counselling, you could maybe try going there and they may be able to answer your questions.


  • #3
    Phototoxin
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    i believe it would be very hard to find a priest who is non judgmental for confession

    I would reccomend finding a priest. In my experience most priests are compassionate and sensitive. Its part of the job description. There's a few psuedo-nazi father jack types around from times past but the majortiy irregarless of their orthodoxy are often sensitive.

    Additionally irrespective of their scaryness preists are supposed to be non-judgemental.


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    postcynical
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    OP - remember that God is merciful. Pray to Jesus and He will forgive you. He is clearly reaching out to you and to your heart. Ask Him also for guidance where to go if you want to make peace with the church and reconcile yourself with the church. It might be good for you to find a younger priest who will know friends who have gone this route and who will be able to speak with you and offer counselling.

    God bless you on your journey back to holiness. I don't know where you are but if in Dublin, maybe try the Dominicans on Dominic Street (back of the Ilac Centre). Or even check the diocese website and find a random church with daytime confession. You have a lot of courage:)


  • #5
    DenMan
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    Hi OP

    Sorry to hear about that.

    My sister is very Catholic (like her mother). She lost her first child. My Mam said that the baby went to heaven despite not having been born. Is that true? It made her feel a lot better. Hope you feel better.


  • #6
    Splendour
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    decembersun77 wrote: »
    I am wondering where do catholic women when they are sorry for having abortion and suffering because of it. its a big sin and i believe it would be very hard to find a priest who is non judgmental for confession. is there any where christian women can go who are suffering alot from what they did, i dont know anywhere like this. if you know it would be helpful

    From reading the above text, I can see that there is alot of remorse and hurt and my heart goes out to the woman involved (not sure if that is you?).
    As a (not Catholic ) Christian, I don't believe one needs a priest to confess their sins,and I know God has seen the heart of this woman. God does not look at denominations but at the very heart of a person, and he knows the turmoil that's going on within.

    Having said that, I believe vocal confession, be it to a priest or pastor or even a friend can be extremely good for the soul and the mind. If necessary contact the local parish priest, and please don't assume they will be judgmental. Priests are first and foremost men with hearts and will be compassionate.

    I will keep this (you?) woman in prayer. As a woman, I can imagine the agony that is being felt. I was unmarried and pregnant at the age of 17 and it was suggested I have an abortion. I didn't but I understand the reasons why so many women do.

    Please feel free to pm me.

    Take care and God bless...


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    Fanny Cradock
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    DenMan wrote: »
    Hi OP

    Sorry to hear about that.

    My sister is very Catholic (like her mother). She lost her first child. My Mam said that the baby went to heaven despite not having been born. Is that true? It made her feel a lot better. Hope you feel better.


    Yes, I would think that many denominations would hold to the belief that the young are automatically granted the mercy of God.


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    kelly1
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    decembersun77 wrote: »
    I am wondering where do catholic women when they are sorry for having abortion and suffering because of it. its a big sin and i believe it would be very hard to find a priest who is non judgmental for confession. is there any where christian women can go who are suffering alot from what they did, i dont know anywhere like this. if you know it would be helpful
    Hello DecemberSun, I know it's hard for us to understand, but God's mercy knows no bounds. So the woman who's had an abortion can go to God with confidence to Jesus knowing that her sins will be forgiven and that God loves her (you?).

    I'd highly recommend confession as you can be absolutely certain that sin will be forgiven. Confession has the added benefit of being a source of grace to avoid further sin.

    The woman who has had the abortion will always grieve for the lost child but can take comfort in the fact that God has forgiven them.

    These sites might be of some help to you:
    http://www.priestsforlife.org/
    http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/resources/index.html

    God bless,
    Noel.


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