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Performance Problems

  • 30-06-2009 2:21pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,

    Just looking for some advice about problems with maintaining erections. I have always had a problem with this since my early 20's (in 30's now). It is never a problem in the first six months of a relationship but starts to creep in later on in.

    I have no problem getting an erection its just that I start having problems and the next time I start to think about it when I am doing the act and it will definitely droop on me. I often think it is an underlying issue with me as I'm one of those people who cant piss in front of someone else.

    I used to just break up with a girl when this kicked in as I assumed I was loosing interest (but maybe I was just hiding the problem), as this is never a problem in a new relationship.

    I was thinking that maybe I should see a councellor? Has anyone had any success with this?


Comments

  • #2
    Varkov
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,263 ✭✭✭Varkov


    chin up


  • #3
    Acoustic
    Closed Accounts Posts: 639 ✭✭✭Acoustic


    my friend had this prob ages ago , he put it down to ( thinking too much about it ) and it went away slowly ( the droopyness )

    maybe just get a check up ???

    if all's ok just try forget it and enjoy the moment with the woman


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    It's probably no consolation man but I've had the same problem myself.

    The best advice I can give is pretty much the same as Acoustic said, try not to think about it. Just relax and try and get into the moment. Try not to let the frustration of the thing get to you.


  • #5
    Terodil
    Closed Accounts Posts: 809 ✭✭✭Terodil


    See a doc.

    It could be a multitude of things. They may happen to coincide with the time pattern you describe but not be related: Food, exercise, stress, ...

    Get that stuff ruled out first before you start thinking about the question if you just don't feel as attracted to your gf anymore. Actually I believe that the former is more probable than the latter if you have no initial problem 'rising up'. Depending on the cause there are numerous ways to fix your issue, don't worry.


  • #6
    Reflector
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 380 ✭✭Reflector


    this **** is always psychological especially seen as you only have the problem after a few months, maybe you are getting bored of the sex if it is routine. You could try spicing it up a bit with new positions/foreplay etc.


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for the replies - (SNIP Lets ease up there)

    As some of you have said the best thing is to relax, which has worked before but its embarrassing. Maybe its as simple as boredom and need to spice things up ...


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