Immature friend

LegacyUser

Hi im friends with a guy who acts very immature for his age.His 26 years old but acts like a 10 year old,Ok he is a sound most of the time but recently he is shouting and roaring at people,for no reason like if he rings you to do something and you cant because your busy he shourts into the phone calling me things like a fcuking **** etc etc,,Like again he is a sound bloke and a guy who i have great time for but lately its starting to bother me and i have stopped taking his calls coz of this and its pissing him off even more.During the weekend he and another friend of mine were heading off for a game of soccer,when my friend got into the car with him he started shouting and roaring at him for wearing a hoodie during the hot weather,the abuse got so bad that my friiend told him to stop the car and he got out.His known for been grumpy but this has gone to far.Im just after getting a text off him calling me a ignorant cnut ,lije howcan i deal with this guy

PirateShampoo

Just tell him out straight, grow up or f off.

Victor

It sounds like he's stressed or just possibly engaging in substance abuse.

I'd sit down with him privately and explain that you are his friend, but friends don't abuse each other like that. See where it goes from there.

Overheal

**** him. not worth the patience. bitch needs to cool off before id try helping him any.

Latchy

You could steer clear from him for a few months altogether .By the sound of it his aggresiveness seems to be an issue he needs to sort out by himself ,not drag you down with it.

KokaNoodles

Hes probably just agitated about something. Maybe hes constapated, a little bit of pear bulmers will fix that right up

Agent J

Depends how much you want this person in your life.

If you do then try the sit down and talk about it approach.

If not then just cut links and be done with it.

Beware though that you can't change people and it already might be a lost cause.

ManOfMystery

Have you ever tried roaring back to see how he likes it?

tangerinepuppet

A 'friend' of mine got like that once. Expected me to want to go out clubbing at the drop of a hat, preferably as the designated driver who would leave her home (adding 8 miles to my journey home at 4 a.m.), even though I was working full time and studying for an MA. I eventually cracked and told her to grow up and either stop behaving like a spoiled brat or stop texting me. She did a bit if bítching about me afterwards, but the people she was moaning to were on my side. They told her they thought I did the right thing, and told me everything she'd been saying (which amounted to nothing, really, as I had only let her know I was having none of her antics). I wasn't one bit bothered - just relieved to be rid of her. I was patient for long enough before deciding life's too short for that crap. In saying that, I had only been friendly with this person for little more than a year, so depending on how long you've known this guy your case might be different?! I agree with Agent J - your approach should depend on how much you want to keep this person in your life.

Varkov

Is it possible he fancies you?

LegacyUser

why do you say that? i presume they are both male? Even if he did fancy him/her im sure he wouldnt be carrying on like this.

LegacyUser

it's probably something he's witnessed at home, maybe his father talks to the whole family like that.....does he still live at home? Sometimes guys think that in order to be the 'alpha male' in a group they need to dominate it with noise and agression. I'd talk to the other friend first and then both of you bring him for a pint and in the nicest possible way explain to him that his behaviour is not what you'd expect from a friend, to either show some respect or pack his bags.......however if he does fancy you it'll break his heart, !!!!