Sunday nights: are they as bad for everybody?

LegacyUser

It never bothered me before but now, every Sunday night for the past 6 months when I started living with my girlfriend, this cloud comes over me - and as many times as I've heard people use that metaphor that is precisely what it feels has descended on me. A whole range of thoughts and worries that rarely enter my mind come over me, and I feel both protective of my girl and vulnerable all at once. I end up staying awake all night and maybe getting to sleep at 7am. It's a dark place and always much darker when I'm in bed with my partner who is fast asleep. The only thing I can put it down to is that after a weekend of spending time with each other a week of work, stress and an absence of quality time lies ahead. But why it makes me really hate this night with a passion - and no other time of the week - is a strange one.

Oddly enough I rarely get this feeling when my partner and I are apart, as is the situation tonight. It's as if loneliness comes with a relationship more than it comes with being alone if that makes any sense. Not having the feeling tonight is probably partly explained by the fact that I have internet access and am therefore sufficiently distracted. However, a touch of it just hit me and it prompted me to write this and see if any of the rest of you end up in this dark place every Sunday night and what do you do to make it a bit brighter?

Thanks.

RossFixxxed

The first part, the Sunday fear is common enough. It's not much fun when you realise the weekend has flown by and another long week is starting. I used to be VERY bad at it. I think it may be down to how you use your time. You should put a bit of time aside during the weekend and the week to youself to have your own time.

My OH usually potters up to bedroom to watch soap or two and I can get some xbox/tv/movie/southpark etc time to myself and it's great way to relax. Otherwise go out get some exercise etc etc.

HOWEVER, this Sunday thing escalated for me and got VERY bad, it would creep out into saturdays, and monday evenings, it got worse and worse. Nip it in the bud! In work atm so will write more when I can!

um7y1h83ge06nx

I had the mother of all Sunday nights last night!

Spent the entire weekend on a lads weekend in Galway, started Friday evening. I always feel deperate after a weekend on the beer like that, the big comedown after a weekend of craic. If I didn't have work today I would have tried and convinced one of the lads (a teacher) to keep going!

I think that's what it is really, a comedown after a nice weekend. I find the best thing to do is rationalise things and turn some negatives into positives.

For example I'm due to work overtime this evening. My initial thoughts yesterday evening were "Fcuk it, I have to try and do some overtime to-morrow evening, and a Monday of all evening". So I changed this around to "I have to work some overtime to-morrow evening, should help me save up some extra cash for the upcoming holiday."

I used be very bad for the Sunday evening comedown but now its not as bad at all. Another thing to do is do something nice on a Sunday evening. I often hop into bed early and stick on a film.

kmick

A good dose of "rescue remedy" before bed can help out with this. I used to get this more when I was younger. Dont seem to get it now I have kids. Too tired and priorities have changed.

sachamama

Dúlagar wrote: »

It's as if loneliness comes with a relationship more than it comes with being alone if that makes any sense.
Thanks.

It probably feels so good to be with her that you want to feel that way all the time, and work/life gets in the way. If that sounds like what it is, you can turn it around by really appreciating the time you do have together more, and when you are apart, look forward to seeing her rather than dreading being without her.

you know, even though its a recession you guys can still dress up for dinner at home, light a few candles and make a special night, half way through the week, so you don't end up living just for the weekend.

Don't wish the week away, make the most of it. As the saying goes, life is what happens while you are making plans.

wixfjord

Funny it seems a lot of people I have mentioned this to seem to feel the same. I personally used to hate the E.R music and anytime I hear it I still get this depressed feeling for a second, because when E.R. ended on a Sunday evening it meant having to go to bed and get ready for another week of school! I now find though that if I do something fun or tiring on a Sunday evening, cinema, walk, go for a drive etc I get to sleep much easier. Rescue remedy can also help. Im also an avid NFL fan so during the winter I look forward to the sunday evening games. Basically do something to take your mind off it I would say.

LouOB

I didnt sleep a wink last night
I would be ok for 2/3 weeks then have a bad one, like last night
I tried the film thing, but end up half dreaming about the film and plot

I might try bed before 10pm and a book for an hour
I tried staying up late as possible but still took me a good 2 hours to knock off
Maybe Sunday sexh time huh huh??<<>>

Sinall

Ah, the Sunday evening blues! It's the thoughts of another whole week stretching ahead of you. Once you are in work on Monday morning you are in the thick of it again and it doesn't seem so bad....it's just the thought of it! And if you have slept in over the weekend your sleeping pattern may have gone haywire and you can't sleep!

Some Sunday's it's worse than others. It makes sense that you don't feel it as much when your partner is there - its a distraction. Keeping active and distracted helps me! Going to the cinema on a Sunday evening is a nice way to round off a weekend.