Recovering Alcoholic

LegacyUser

I am a recovering alcoholic. I have been sober for the past two and a half years. I have been attending counselling throughout this time. About three weeks ago, my therapist told me that I was doing really well, and that I did not need weekly therapy any more. What do I do now? I miss our sessions a lot as it was as a result of these sessions that I have been able to attain a level of happiness that I never imagined possible for myself.

I went back to college and graduated with a postgraduate diploma. I am feeling much better as a result of the counselling, but I really miss the sessions. I broke up with my boyfriend about two years ago, and have not had a relationship since then. As I am coming up to my 29th birthday, my mother has been asking me questions such as : 'when are you going to meet a man?' My single status has not bothered me at all really, as I am much happier now then I was, and I have been travelling quite a bit, having fun, and making up for lost time

But now friends and cousins of mine are getting married this year, and I look at my sister and her husband, and my brother and his girlfriend, and I can see how happy they are together. I have been thinking that it would be nice to have someone special, as I do feel lonely sometimes. I have talked about this with my sister, and she said to ignore my mother, that I should not be under any pressure to meet someone, as I will always have my family.

There are a lot of threads on these boards about people being single. So I guess my question is this: would it be harder as a 29 year old recovering alcoholic to meet people? Would many men out there date a recovering alcoholic? I am happy being single at the moment, but I would like to keep my options open

Anyway, thanks for listening to me!

Greenmachine

Regardless of whether you are looking for a new man or not the main thing is too keep yourself buzy with activities that you enjoy. From your post you seem to be doing that anyways. I don't see any mention of exercise on your post, but if you can find a physical activity you enjoy chance are better of meeting someone who doesn't drink than down the pub for example. If you meet someone who doesn't drink much or at all, it should be easier to find someone capable of supporting you, if only because the pub is not a big part of their lives. We all carrry baggage of some sort with us. It is how we deal with it that counts. Good luck.

Gadfly

Well done on your recovery and indeed for 'completing' counseling. I am over sixteen years sober and while it was very difficult at first, it is now a great way of life. I really believe that the right person will come along and I wouldn't place yourself under too much pressure to give to peer pressure. One of the beauties of recovery is that you are a new person and I think you will give off a energy that will attract the right guy for you. You sound like you are in a great space. I wish you well.

SarahSassy

OP, I take my hat off to you! Well done on getting to where you have.

Dont worry about meeting someone, that will happen in its own good time. I dont know what your relationship is like with your Mother but if it were me, I would sit her down and explain that you are trying to and would like to meet someone but her comments upset you. Ask her to stop and leave it at that...

LegacyUser

Well done Well my sister is in a similer position she attends AA meeting which she finds a great help and there is a great social side too why not one day a week go to a meeting and make it a you day small things like pamper yourself or have a girls day lunch having a drinking problem is only a very small part of who you are One Day at a time you should be so proud of yourself whats for you won't pass you the right one will come along when the time is right next time your Mam asks tell her your too busy enjoying life to have a man the only person that you need to love and make you happy is you when you do you will ooze come get me best of luck x