Another Saturday night alone.......

LegacyUser

Another Saturday night watching TV alone! I'm a single female, early forties & as is the norm for my age group, most of my friends are either married with kids and not going out, or living abroad. I have a few single friends but not enough to depend on for going out every Saturday night. I live in a smallish town with a small pool of single people, or very few opportunities to meet anybody. Tried internet dating but in the months that I've been a member it's been the same few single males, even given an 80 mile radius from where I live!

So.. do I just give in & sit in every Sat night, or go out on my own or what? Any suggestions greatfully appreciated - thanks!

LegacyUser

Yes being single and stuck home saturday night just sucks, doesn't it? The thing is that while we are all home tonight bemoaning our lonely state we forget that we really aren't alone in this. The world is full of people who spent the evening flicking through what the telly had to offer on their own wishing it was all so very different. We all just have to find one of them to turn things around.

I don't think I'd start going out on my own on Saturday nights if I was you - not to pubs or clubs anyway. I think maybe you should start a bit smaller. Maybe join a class or a club in your area. 90% of people who make the effort to do these activities do them to meet people or make a few friends. If you go and persist at it you'll probably find that you'll widen your social circle and ad a few more friends to the list you can call on saturday nights at least- maybe people like yourself who spend them being lonely too.Even if you don't find true love there you never know who widening your social circle might bring into your life.I think that maybe just one friend you could go out with on Saturdays would make a big difference to you and how you feel about things. Being alone or single doesn't mean you have to feel lonely after all. If I was you I'd just join something with the aim of finding one friend you might be able to go out with because that is possible.In the long run you never know who these outtings might lead you too.Start small and think possible!
And you really aren't alone in this at all .Good luck.

lau1247

maybe go out in other nearby town..??

legend365

I was chillin myself last night.

Doesn't mean anything if you sit in on a Saturday night. Theres plenty of other nights to go out aswell. + Your saving alot of dosh.....could be spent on a holiday

LegacyUser

OP here - you're right Legend. Think I was just feeling little sorry for myself last night & the glass or two of wine that I had didnt help- life isnt that bad really!! I do need to get out more though!

SarahSassy

OP, I am going out with someone who works shifts and I am often home alone on a Sat night. I actually prefer going out any night other than sat cos town is so packed, messy etc etc....

Weekends can be hard when single (as I remember very well) cos the weekends seem so long. If you really find weekends hard then why dont you think about some voluntary work (eg provide counselling for the Samaritans etc) or plan ahead and do your cooking for the week. Anything to keep you busy if you find it hard. Maybe you just need to plan well ahead with friends to keep your Saturdays busy. Is there speed dating in your area?

I dont have any easy solutions for you. Maybe go out on Thursday and Friday if you can and then you will be too tired to worry about Sat

michaelgriffin8

I dont really think the issue is being alone on a saturday night, I think the OP is more concerned about her small circle of friends and the fact she's single...although maybe im totally wrong here.

Anyway, I think 'sparkly sandles' gave the best advice here. Join a club, society etc etc. Its the best way to increase your circle of friends.

xabi_a

Yes some kind of club or society is definitely the way to go (although in a rural setting I don't know how easy that is).

It's so much easier to meet a soul-mate by going through some experience together, like learning something, playing some game, walking in the mountains, whatever.

In contrast, with online dating I think people come across as a bit desparate and it's much harder for that spark to appear.

katiemaloe

Hi, I know what ya mean.... it is kinda yuck if you're in by yourself and feelin a bit lonely. How about havin some of your married mates over for dinner parties? Or if they have tiny kids... head to their house with some simple yummy dinner, loadsa dessert and a bottle of wine. You can have a laugh and it will boost your confidence so you're more likely to attract someone lovely. Head out any night of the week with your mates- married or not. You can go for supper, or to a play or pottery class..... Just for fun, you can meet people in all sorts of places... Good luck darlin