Dating?

anonanon

Do you need to think your gonna marry your other half to continue in a relationship?

SarahSassy

Marry / long term relationship - yes or else whats the point?

Otis Driftwood

Depends on the lenght of the relationship.

A couple of months,hell no.

A couple of years,depends on the individuals and if they actually see it leading somewhere.

anonanon

its only been a few months,just wondering about peoples opininons on this?

SarahSassy

after a few months you dont need to know if you want to marry him / her.. Just to know you want to keep seeing them is ok.

anonanon

thanks sarah..i'll just take it as it comes

SarahSassy

Do take it as it comes.. dont put pressure on yourself, the relationship or your oh.

relax and enjoy

Crash Bang Wall

SarahSassy wrote: »

Do take it as it comes.. dont put pressure on yourself, the relationship or your oh.

relax and enjoy

After a few months all that matters is if ye are happy together or not. 2-3 years would be time enough to think about marriage etc

LegacyUser

my ex dumped me after about 5 months because his friend told him that if you don't see yourself spending the rest of your life with someone then whats the point going out with them! That was the reason why he dumped me!!!

SarahSassy

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my ex dumped me after about 5 months because his friend told him that if you don't see yourself spending the rest of your life with someone then whats the point going out with them! That was the reason why he dumped me!!!

Well count yourself lucky. He could have dragged it out for 5 years and then dumped you. Now you can meet someone who does want to spend the rest of their lives with you.

LegacyUser

SarahSassy wrote: »

Well count yourself lucky. He could have dragged it out for 5 years and then dumped you. Now you can meet someone who does want to spend the rest of their lives with you.

he did - we got back together - broke up, etc etc, now about 4 years later we have broken up, taking abreak for 6 months to see how we feel after it

MissyN

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my ex dumped me after about 5 months because his friend told him that if you don't see yourself spending the rest of your life with someone then whats the point going out with them! That was the reason why he dumped me!!!

ah now c'mon....you don't want this guy. talk about messing you around and he must be very immature to listen to his friend like that and then actually act on his friends advice. Don't want to hurt you or sound harsh but i think you're wasting your time with this guy. please try to move on from him.

SarahSassy

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he did - we got back together - broke up, etc etc, now about 4 years later we have broken up, taking abreak for 6 months to see how we feel after it

Hmmmmm. Thats sad for you but MIssyN speaks the truth. Thats a lot of breaks....

No. I like to enjoy the moment and spending time together - not worrying if I'm going to end up marrying my boyfriend of 6 months. As I get a bit older I'm thinking of the future more, but I'd need to get to know him much better and spend much more time with him (ie living together) to really know if I'd see us being married. Right now I just enjoy that we get along so well.

SuperTyper

I'd say it depends on if marriage is your cup of tea. I was with my B/F for 10 years and he asked me could I see myself married to him and I said no. He said whats the point in us continuing......

I personally don't believe in the concept of marriage, its just not for me, I never wanted to be married. I have 2 kids and am very happy. If you are happy with your boyfriend and he treats you well, I'd say enjoy.