I feel a little bit let down

LegacyUser

I think the world of my boyfriend, he's a lovely lovely person to me. Never treats me with anything but respect and love, and always spoils me.

I thought he was a very confident person, perhaps sometimes too confident a little bit cocky.
I recently went to a works thing with him, and it seemed it's not just over cofidence and cockiness, I think he might be a bit of a bully in work.
There are a couple of people who seem a bit wary of him, like they are trying to keep on his good side. They all said to me how nice he is, one of them after a couple of drinks said he can be quite intense, but I just got the impression they might be a little afraid of him.

I feel let down. I was bullied in work and he knew how horrible it was for me, and know it seems like he could be a bully.

SarahSassy

But you dont know for sure and cant know if he is a bully so why are you let down? If someone was bullying me at work I would not be telling his gf how nice he is.

ZappaFrank

You think too much.

Why should you care what others think of him. I work with 400 people, about 20 of them think i am a dick, so what??? Thats life. But to those i love i have the total and upmost respect and love for, just like your b/f has for you!

zxcvbnm1

SarahSassy wrote: »

But you dont know for sure and cant know if he is a bully so why are you let down? If someone was bullying me at work I would not be telling his gf how nice he is.

Why is she let down?
Because she suspects he is a bully ! That's why.

Yes - you are right in that she doesn't know for sure. But this isn't a court of law.
She suspects it - and therefore she is entitled to feel teh way she does.

Also - if someone commenys to someone elses patnerv at a work do about them then the lkellihood is they will just say some random complimetary cmment about then as oppsed to giving out about how much they dislike the person.

It's very posiible that peson just got talking to the op and therefore just felt obliged in their mild drunken state to say something about them - and given thge choice of insulting the bf as opposed to saying something complimenatry about the person they pripbably just took the easy option for convenience and avoided conflict.

Overheal

ZappaFrank wrote: »

You think too much.

Why should you care what others think of him. I work with 400 people, about 20 of them think i am a dick, so what??? Thats life. But to those i love i have the total and upmost respect and love for, just like your b/f has for you!

In your example youre still only talking about 5% of the people you work with. Which, is probably well within normal, tbph. The OP seems to be suggesting a significant portion of his colleagues that appear intimidated by him.

SarahSassy

zxcvbnm1 wrote: »

Also - if someone commenys to someone elses patnerv at a work do about them then the lkellihood is they will just say some random complimetary cmment about then as oppsed to giving out about how much they dislike the person.

Ok but I would have thought that they would say nothing rather than compliment someone who bullies them.... Doesnt manke much sense to me.