Falling for my best friend?! HELP!

LegacyUser

Oh no! im falling for my best friend. HELP!

ive been good great friends with this girl for about 4 - 5 years now. (im 19, she's 18) We get on so well. shes into pretty much everything im into, which doesnt help, cause were so damn competitive with each other. anyway, ive always had some amount of feelings for her, but, in the name of our friendship, ive been able to bury them. Even go out with other girls. (obviously, i compare them to her, addmitingly unfairly..) but she's always been there in my mind..

anyway, im finding it VERY hard to bury these feelings again. She comes over pretty much every day (we are (un)fortunate enough to work with each other some days - teaching kids to kayak) and during the evening we watch movies and stuff together, sometimes with the rest of the group, sometimes not. during these instances i try push a little to see if theres any response. you know, a *little* flirty (much much tamer than how i usually chat up girls, but flirt all the same imo), kinda lying with her on the couch and just kinda rub her arms and play with her a little (dont slag, it pulls under normal circumstances)

were (im) not very good at expressing my feelings about my female friends to them, and even less so to her. im working on improving that aspect of myself. i told her the other day night when she was leaving that im not unlocking the door, imprisoning her. and noone will miss her. adding quickly that everyone who cares for her is already in the house. (****ing up after that by quickly covering myself that our other female friend who was in my house was the one who cared. but she knows im sarcastic..) odly ive no problem telling the lads who are close to me how i feel about them.. she's improving too. drew a heart on my cheek in pen tonight before going home. (big stuff coming from her)

anyway i know she's thought about it because the girls had a talk about why i was the only one in our group getting into relationships. and 1 of them spilled the beans (through no pressure at all, shes a sucker for juicy gossip) that i was very playfull with girls, even on a physical level (no harm or anything, just the stuff like grapping them and jumping into the river while over my shoulder) and that she couldnt see herself with me because she took things too seriously (?) (her only flaw afaik - overthinks alot) i talked to her about it and she said that shes more relaxed with me than most people and not to be offended.

i think a potential problem could be that im *pretty* experienced in the relationship department, had a pretty serious relationship for a while [with her now ex-best friend - story for another day] and pull a few girls every now and then. and she's only had a handful of guys, but still a virgin, and maybe it intimidates her how easy going i am at pulling girls...

anyway terribly sorry for the EXTREMELY long post. Id talk to the girls about it but 1) i think the one likes and has admitted to having a crush on me before and i wouldnt want to hurt her, and 2) as stated before, they're absolutely useless at keeping a secret. boards was a last resort honestly..

for the short version of this post, listen to "Blink-182 (i know) - Please Take Me Home"

just looking for what to do/ get over her. rebounds are only a very temp solution. max 2 weeks. i need something more potent..

thanks soooo much guys!

SarahSassy

Ask her out and see what happens...

MissRealist

I'd be careful...

Just be aware that she's probably very comfortable where you two are right now from the sound of your post and if she's your best friend you don't want to mess it up.

I'm not saying don't ask her out. Just tread carefully alright?

Anyway that's the advice from an eighteen year old girl with a more experienced nineteen year old best friend so take it or leave it.:rolleyes:

Greenmachine

It can really mess up some good friendships. Lord knows I ahve ruined a couple of friendships by bringing sex into the equation.

messygirl

it seems you will really regret it if you dont go for it, ye could be chandler and monica! why dont you some day just admit you really like her and you dont want to ruin your friendship but you thought she should know, and if she wants you as a friend thats great if she wants more too you would really like that, then the ball is in her court,

Skillie

had a friend like that once, shes my fiance now.

would have been worth loosing her friendship taking the gamble to make her more