Possible pregnancy?

LegacyUser

Hey there.

Here's the deal, I'm 17 and my gf is 16, we've been going out for over 2 and a half years, unusual I know. Anyway, we first started having sex about a month and a half ago, and we have used proper precautions everytime, but now her period is 3 weeks late. I know this doesn't look good, but she has very irregular periods, she can never really keep track of them. She's been over 2 weeks late before, which was also worrying. Can it be that late and actually come? Could she have skipped one? I just can't see how this has happened. At this stage, we're both extremely worried, I think we should buy a pregnancy test, however she seems reluctant to do so. I think it's because if it is a yes, she doesn't want to know. Please help, I need advice, I'm very distraught over this. My heads in a mess, I just don't want this to be real. Thanks.

Wurly

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Hey there.

Here's the deal, I'm 17 and my gf is 16, we've been going out for over 2 and a half years, unusual I know. Anyway, we first started having sex about a month and a half ago, and we have used proper precautions everytime, but now her period is 3 weeks late. I know this doesn't look good, but she has very irregular periods, she can never really keep track of them. She's been over 2 weeks late before, which was also worrying. Can it be that late and actually come? Could she have skipped one? I just can't see how this has happened. At this stage, we're both extremely worried, I think we should buy a pregnancy test, however she seems reluctant to do so. I think it's because if it is a yes, she doesn't want to know. Please help, I need advice, I'm very distraught over this. My heads in a mess, I just don't want this to be real. Thanks.

If you really have used proper precautions and I mean REALLY - then its very unlikely she's pregnant IMO. Also if her periods are irregular, then this could explain what's happened here.

Get a test. I know she's scared. But what's the point in potentially worrying over nothing?? I'm afraid no one can really answer your questions any better. I know you're worried and scared, both of you are. So even more the reason to get the test and know for sure. Good luck.

Michellenman

What kind of precautions have you been taking? There's always a chance of pregnancy regardless of how careful you've been. I suggest you sit her down and ask her to take the test. Explain that she can't hide from it and you'll both be better able to deal with the situation if you know exactly what it is you're dealing with. Try telling her how it's making you feel and that if she can't take the test for herself ask her to take it for you and to put your mind at ease.

There is also the chance that her stressing about it all is making her period late.

Hope everything turns out alright for you.

LegacyUser

OP here. Well like, I've been wearing condoms, and using them properly. Like very cautiously, because this is the last thing I want to happen. I have heard stress can delay it, so I'm hoping that it was just late, then she got worried and stressed over it, which is making it later. I dunno if I'm just clutching at straws though.

b3t4

Tomorrow morning, get up and go and get a pregnancy test.

If you're worried about getting it locally go somewhere else to get one. Oh and get two as you never believe the first one no matter what the result

It's fine. This happens to everyone. (well at least I think it does. I'm more than careful and have taken a few pregnancy tests in my time ) The reassurance they give is worth gold.

Your girlfriend probably can't face buying a pregnancy test. It takes a surprising amount of courage to buy one, particularly when you're younger. Actually, I find it hard and I'm a bit older that both of you.

Best of luck with it and no matter what the result, you can manage, but get the result first before you start to panic.

Permabear

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LegacyUser

Hey OP, I remember being in the same situation when I was 18. I do think I stressed myself out so much I was later than usual and my boyfriend at the time and I were very frightened. I know how it feels and I never took a pregnancy test, looking back, I wish I had. Actually, I wish he had bought them for us, maybe you could do this.

We ended up breaking up a few months later and the root of it was because of this scare. It was never the same again. Please support your girlfriend regardless of what happens and don;t change towards her. Talk about your feelings to her and force her to listen to them. Best of luck OP.

YT

Hi OP.
Your not the first and you won't be the last, and reactions are never going to be as bad as you think they are. Not much comfort there, but I'm saying that in the hope of easing your mind slightly.

As others have said first thing to do is to get a test.

Sometimes stress and worrying can delay a period. I'm in my 20's and I can still be irregular, so at 16 it could be possible to be 3 weeks late.

nayorleck114

Worrying is only going to make things worse. Guys can also buy pregancy tests. Just do it. Not knowing is worse thank knowing.

Once you know you can more on. Believe me things could be a lot worse!.

Toots

If you've really been careful with the condoms, then she's probably not pregnant. When I was 16 my periods were all over the shop. I often went 6 weeks without one, longer once or twice, it wasn't until I was about 18 that they settled down to a regular pattern. I know she's worried, but really the only way to know for sure is to take a test.

If you're in Dublin, the WellWoman Centre does pregnancy tests, and can provide Crisis Pregnancy Counselling if it turns out she is pregnant. Otherwise, you can buy a pregnancy test in a chemist or supermarket if you want. ClearBlue does a digital one, which literally spells out whether or not you're pregnant, so there's no chance of reading the test wrong.

If you're going to continue having sex, it might be a good idea to look into another form of contraception along with condoms, like the pill, which would give you both a bit of extra peace of mind.

liah

I missed 3 months' worth of periods once. Was scared shítless. Think I must've been about 18 or 19? Took a pregnancy test each week for those 3 months, but they all came back negative. Nothing about my lifestyle had changed either, I was under no stress (at least not until I started missing them, and even then I was oddly nonchalant about it but that's just my demeanor), my contraception method hadn't changed, and I was eating healthily and all that.

Sometimes it just happens. Sometimes there's just no explanation. Get a pregnancy test to be sure, but if you've been that cautious you should be fine.

nellie07

just put your mind at ease by getting the pregnancy test done, either way you will know and can then decide what best to do from there. Worry and Stress definitely can delay things. May be better for her to start taking the contraceptive pill even though I know that this is not 100% safe either but the rate is pretty high. Good luck x