Question for men

LegacyUser

how would you react if you met a girl and she told you she had type 1 diabetes which involves taking about 5 injections daily and monitoring what she eats?? would you make an excuse and run a mile or would you be ok with it?? honost answers only please.

irelandrover

It wouldn't bother me at all tbh. One of my best friends has type 1 diabetes so it doesn't bother me. It took me one or two times when we were out to get used to him having to inject himself but I pay no attention to it anymore. If I liked a girl diabetes wouldn't affect any decision.

Latchy

Dont see a problem with it at all .

Canis Lupus

Unregistered wrote: »

how would you react if you met a girl and she told you she had type 1 diabetes which involves taking about 5 injections daily and monitoring what she eats?? would you make an excuse and run a mile or would you be ok with it?? honost answers only please.

As long as you're cute.

AlphaMale 3OO

Don't see why its a problem?

kjt

Wouldn't be a problem in the slightest...!

sqlpod

Dont be so shallow Dude!!!. She know's she's a T1 Dybo and has all the stigma that goes with it, you cant catch it off, her even though you may develop it in time without knowing so look into it and treat her as you would normaly, she will know how she has to manage i and in time maybe you can help her.
So read up and the more you show her you understand, and the more relaxed and comfortable your relationship may become

LegacyUser

reason i ask is cause im just out of a long term relationship and the ex was with me when i first got it - so now im thinking if i meet a new guy he'll run a mile if he found out.

Mena

Don't see how this could ever be an issue for someone, and if it is, run away.

draven3410

Why would you make it an issue? So she has it. Big deal. If you really like her, accept it. It's not as if you can catch it off her. And if do like her and run away from her because of it, it makes you a bad person.:mad: that's my 5cent anyway

chickenhawk

Wouldn't have a problem with it!

jesus_thats_gre

sqlpod wrote: »

has all the stigma that goes with it,

Stigma that goes with it?

LegacyUser

Im pretty attracted to the only diabetic girl I know, so my answer is that it makes no difference!

seanybiker

wouldnt have a problem with it at all at all. Diabetes aint bad at all. Couple injections and watch the diet its not major. If you meet someone who has a problem with it then you should run a mile

scubasteve

No issue at all. So...... How you doin?;)

LegacyUser

What stigma?
I wouldnt have the slightest problem with it. Id probably be quiet curious about it at first and then i suppose just get totally used to the idea. No biggy whatsoever!!

An Ard Ri

cant see a problem myself

PCPhoto

Unregistered wrote: »

reason i ask is cause im just out of a long term relationship and the ex was with me when i first got it - so now im thinking if i meet a new guy he'll run a mile if he found out.

the only thing I would suggest is that you dont start with......." Hi !.... I'm (Insert name) and I have Diabetes etc etc" .... not the best of chat up lines anyway.


to be honest any guy that has a problem with it should be put in a burlap sack and beaten with a bag of doorknobs....and would be a waste of time to be with that type of guy.

theres nothing wrong with having Diabetes.

sqlpod

sorry UN REG,did not know you were female, but it goes to show how shallow our society can be, when you have to ask stranger's if they would date you because of a small defect, if they object to you then they have the defect, its called their brain

Adamisconfused

It wouldn’t be a consideration at all.

Dord

Adamisconfused wrote: »

It wouldn’t be a consideration at all.

Yeah, same here. It wouldn't bother me.

entropi

There is NO problem here...sure a girl in my class in college has it, and takes insulin injections twice during college hours and nobody bats an eyelid...its a medical condition and has to be taken seriously, you should take heed and think about whether you would be seriously into a relationship if you cant even handle this trivial little bit of information you've been presented with.

Carsinian Thau

Unregistered wrote: »

how would you react if you met a girl and she told you she had type 1 diabetes which involves taking about 5 injections daily and monitoring what she eats?? would you make an excuse and run a mile or would you be ok with it?? honost answers only please.

I would have no issue with it. But to be honest, I have type 1 diabetes too so it could never be an issue for me.

But from personal experience, it's never been an issue. Your personality is going to be the deciding factor for so much of this.

Auldloon

She is sitting next to me on her lap top and looking as beautiful as ever:) So no its not an issue for me at all, never has been never will.

SomeFool

Mrs somefool is a type 1 diabetic. No issue at all. Anyone that can't see past it is not worth the trouble I think.

thebiggestjim

No problem at all, 5% -10% of North Americans are estimated to have it. Thats 28-56 Million people in North America alone.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Type_1_diabetes

ElBarco

I'm a type 1 diabetic myself (male though!). I wouldn't even give it a thought, it'll come up in conversation before too long and as others have said, if he was to have a problem with it he wouldn't be worth going any further with.

jdivision

Don't even worry about it. I only know one diabetic and think she's cute. Asked her about it but that was only curiosity

Kevo

Nope. Wouldn't bother me the slightest bit.
The way things are going, a very large percentage of the population will have it in the future.

PCPhoto

sqlpod wrote: »

sorry UN REG,did not know you were female, but it goes to show how shallow our society can be, when you have to ask stranger's if they would date you because of a small defect, if they object to you then they have the defect, its called their brain

its not a defect ... theres nothing wrong with diabetes

a defect means theres something wrong with the OP ..... sorry if it sounds like I'm on a rant but the tone of your post makes me feel like I have to say this.

the fact that the OP has to do something on a daily basis doesnt make her less of a person - we all do something on a daily basis (ie. Eat, pooh etc) .... some people NEED to have a cup of tea/coffee in the mornings , the OP NEEDS to inject ...same thing (kinda).

Personally ... I have a fear (not a phobia) of needles ...so would not like to watch the OP inject - but I have an uncle who does the same - although I dont watch but dont have a problem when he does inject - its part of his life. (I dont watch him inject)

sqlpod

PCPHOTO, guess what ?.
I have diabetes too, have had for years and i have seen the crap that goes with it when people find out, first reaction is ooohhhh unclean, what did you do to get that!!!, can you catch it from kissing, years ago i was refused a job because they thought i may have an epileptic fit, HELLO Aaagghhhhhh !!!

badaulname

Hey Unreg

I am diabetic the last 10years and I am a girl!!:D I have had no problems with boyfriends in the past, my ex didn't like seeing me injecting myself coz of a slight fear of needles but he was interested and knew I needed some food when I was low. I think diabetes gives me more depth!:pac: When you tell people you have it they are shocked, especially when you play sport like I do and don't be afraid of telling people!

And it comes in handy if you play it right, couple of mins extra in exams and in work for breaks!:D If a fella says something when you tell him....get rid of him! Hope this eases your fears and if you want to ask me anything etc don't be afraid to shout!

PeakOutput

wouldnt bother me

discobeaker

Wow,i think if a guy was to run a mile because of your sickness then he must be pretty shallow. Hey i would have no problem if the girl had to take injections everyday to keep here feeling ok. But thats just my 2cents

Eric Cartman

wouldnt bother me, aids or any kind of transmittable infection would, but diabetes no

BarnhallBull

Any man who felt this was any kind of a reason not to be with someone is, quite frankly, extremely shallow and not worth bothering with! It's pathetic to think that anyone could let something like this get in the way of a relationship, if you care about someone then this kind of thing is completely unimportant.

I'm speaking from experience, i'm not going to pretend that my girlfriend's type 1 diabetes didn't have an effect on our relationship, but certainly not a negative one! I was very protective of her, and possibly nagged her a little bit about doing finger pricks etc., but that was only because I loved her, and she knew that:)

Any decent bloke won't have a problem with it OP, good luck finding you're Mr. Right:P

CathyMoran

Am a girl and a type 1 diabetic over 24 years - I did not tell one bf which I regret but I told the others - none of them had problems with it (though one of them admitted that they found looking at the injections hard)...am happily married to the man I first met when I was 21 - he did not care that I had diabetes though he was and is protective.

A friend who was only diagnosed in her late teens is happily settled too - any guy who has problems with it is not worth your time.

philologos

Unregistered wrote: »

how would you react if you met a girl and she told you she had type 1 diabetes which involves taking about 5 injections daily and monitoring what she eats?? would you make an excuse and run a mile or would you be ok with it?? honost answers only please.

If this girl was the right girl for me a few injections wouldn't stop me feeling the same way I would

Don't worry about it is fine.

agent_smith

Dont be worrying about this at all OP. It wouldnt put me off a girl in the slightest. I do suffer needle phobia though, so I would probably feint (as i usually do when giving blood :S) so once the girl didnt have a problem with me feinting when i see the needle ... happy out .

nayorleck114

What are you like 16 years old! my god as if diabetes was a reason not to date the girl. I think the fact that you even had to post shows your not mature enough to date the girl.

PCPhoto

PCPhoto wrote: »

its not a defect ... theres nothing wrong with diabetes

a defect means theres something wrong with the OP ..... sorry if it sounds like I'm on a rant but the tone of your post makes me feel like I have to say this.

In fairness, he wasn't making out that she is less of a person, diabetes is a defect, it's means you have a defective pancreas, that doesn't mean she's any less of a person! lot's of people have defects, birth defects, defective organs, defective limbs, none of them are "less of a person".

OP as said before, if someone has a problem with it then they're not worth knowing! I can't honestly see anyone having a problem with it anyway, they may have questions etc but as long as you are willing and comfortable answering them then it shouldn't be an issue at all.

Liam Byrne

Nawwww....I'd MUCH prefer to date an obnoxious, shallow, bitchy, vacuous, alcoholic, split-personality, celebrity-and-money obsessed but-in-perfect-health woman!

BTW, only messing [just in case the irony gets lost].

No-one's perfect, and if that's the only [wouldn't even say hurdle] ye encounter, then happy days!

Alanstrainor

I've been a diabetic for 12ish years, never knew people would react that way to it! It's not the kind of thing that should really make difference at all, so what, a few injections a day, i dont know how that would bother anyone. If you're squeamish then don't watch.

Handsome Bob

I wouldn't have an issue at all OP. I have my own little imperfections that I'd hope someone wouldn't hold against me, so I'd have no right to hold their imperfections against them.:)

LegacyUser

reminds me of meeting a fella one time
On the 1st date he mentioned being diabetic, injections etc and I wasn`t that put out after all to Me it wasn`t a problem....
After 3 or 4 more dates I realized it was a really big problem for him!! Not medically but pyschologically!! He was totally obsessed with being a diabetic, constantly going on about all his limitations, he was just used to everyone being totally "concerned" 24/7 which just wore me down and needless to say it didn`t blossom so i ended it...

CathyMoran

Unregistered wrote: »

reminds me of meeting a fella one time
On the 1st date he mentioned being diabetic, injections etc and I wasn`t that put out after all to Me it wasn`t a problem....
After 3 or 4 more dates I realized it was a really big problem for him!! Not medically but pyschologically!! He was totally obsessed with being a diabetic, constantly going on about all his limitations, he was just used to everyone being totally "concerned" 24/7 which just wore me down and needless to say it didn`t blossom so i ended it...

While I am a type 1 diabetic myself I do agree that attitude to an illness has a lot to do with how you view it - I have a friend who was diagnosed in her late teens who is obsessed with her diabetes, for me I look after it but it does not define me...my husband told me on our first proper conversation that he had crohns and I had read a lot about it before hand but he handles it with a dignity and grace that I can only hope to emulate.

muboop1

As already said, yeh its a big deal health wise if you do not take care of yourself, but once you do and your not constantly looking for atention or something for it. No worries!

If my GF had it, I'd happily help her monitor it etc when I could. However I wouldn't let it consume my life, and to think that someone would is highly unattractive. There has to be more to you then diabetes. Let that shine through. Foremost for yourself and then for others.

Once you don't let it become a disability mentally or physically(neglecting to take care of yourself so your a "weapon" in bad form all the time or hurting yourself) then no problems!

tbh

diabetics do it with a tiny prick

OP, been diabetic 13 years myself, never had any problems with it. Don't raise it too early, and not too late. Have a look in LTI where you'll find other diabetics happily chatting away about all things Type 1 and 2 - click here (you can post unregg too!)