This is another one of those "I love a girl, but she doesn't love me" things...

LegacyUser

First of all, I'm a 14 year old guy (15 on July 2nd) moving on to 10th grade next year. I met this girl about a year ago, in highschool, and ever since the day I met her, I liked
her. I'm definetly sure that I love this girl, but it's questionable whether she likes me or not. I'm currently her bestest friend forever, and I really like being even that. Ever since school let out, even the second I got home, I've texted her with AIM, and I just got a cell phone about two weeks ago, that I pay for, (my parents don't really pay for anything of mine except the house I live in and the utilities of the house) just so I could text her whenever I wanted. The hardest part about this whole thing is that...she has a boyfriend that she's in "love" with. The guy is a total (something I'm not sure if I can say on this forum, but he's really mean and rude to her sometimes). It's currently still summer and I want to know whether it's worth it to try and get with this girl or not.

She said that the day she met me in school a year ago, she had a crush on me, too. But she said I seemed...kinda dirty. I hated taking showers back then, but ever since
she told me I should take showers everyday, I haven't stopped since. She loves me as a best friend, and I can always make her smile, and she said nobody can make her
laugh like I can. We stay up almost every night and talk on the phone until 3:00 in the morning because my mom gets up to go to work at that time.

I've told her that I loved her on many occasions, and I'm a sucker for romance. I built a bear at Build-A-Bear Workshop as a birthday present, which dressed like she did,
and she sleeps with it every night. Her boyfriend has made it to 2nd base with her, and she doesn't want to go any farther until marriage with him, she ordered a purity ring
just for that. The weird thing is, that's actually what I wanted, I'm totally not ready for sex, which is weird coming out of a 14-year-old's mouth.

One day I was talking to her, and she said her mom saw a picture of me, and said I was cute, and she said she agreed with her mom. When she told me that, of course I
blushed and got all happy, because this girl is the only thing I can ever think about anymore.

Just last night, I was talking to her on the phone, and something came up about me liking her, and she said "maybe you'll get lucky someday" reffering to being able to be
with her, and I said "yeah, because this hard work thing isn't working" and she said "yes it is" in a low voice, but I could still hear. She immediatly said "umm, I didn't say that!" and said she forgot what she said, and kept asking me what it was but I kept saying "you know what you said" in a happy voice. When I told her what we just discussed, she didn't deny it, just said kind of like a suprised "oh!" and changed the topic. Later she asked me if she told me her plan, and I said no. She's leaving for the beach the day before my birthday, and she told me that she planned to talk to me as much as possible that night, and she was going to be the first one to say happy birthday. At 12:02 (when I was born) she was going to sing happy birthday to me. It's childish, I know, but I still think it's nice.

I know that there's probably some older people out there that will tell me im not really in love, and tell me that this isn't something worth obsessing over, but if I'm not in love,
what am I? I really don't know what to do any more, because I try so hard to get this girl to like me, and I garuntee I'm a lot sweeter to her than her boyfriend is, and she still
hasn't made an attempt to tell me how she really feels about me. She sometimes texts "ily" at the end of her texts, usually after I make her laugh, and she almost always
texts "ily squared" (I'm a math nerd, and we love making fun of it) after I tell her I love her, and I told her even when she does that I get butterflies, but she said she means as a friend. I told her that I usually spell out "I love you" because it seems like it has more of a meaning that way, and she agreed and said "thats why I've never said it." She told me that she's saving the "I love you" toward me, and I'm hoping that means that she likes me, but isn't sure if she loves me yet.

It seems to me like she likes me, but she is afraid to tell me. What do you think?

Jumpy

Dude. Dont worry about this stuff until you are older.
Also, dont obsess, you think in your head that girls find this type of thing romantic, and in moderation it is, but go overboard and it moves into creepiness.
We have all done it when we were young, and I wont tell you to "grow up" because that happens at your own pace. Just act normal, this overboard romantic stuff is not neccessary at your age.

Astrogeek

I think both of you are too young to know what love is.

In any case, you are obsessing. That's never healthy. The best thing about being young is that anything could happen in the future. I'm five years older than you and I'm still counting on that.

Just don't worry about it. Don't push her into breaking up with her boyfriend. Don't push her into being in a serious relationship with you.

The best friend means A LOT more to a 14/15 year old girl than any boyfriend.
Why aren't you happy being the best friend?

My advice would be to stay exactly where you are. Be there for her when she needs you. Know that you are one of the most important people in her life and BE HAPPY that you are.
If it is meant to be, it will happen. When you are both ready.

philologos

OP: I'd advise you to save yourself the pain in this case. I personally find that I can get very attached when I get to know certain girls very well, even to this day. However, there are times when you think a girl 100% likes you the same way as you like them. What you are really doing is putting her up on a pedestal, then if in the event that she says that she doesn't feel the same way about you. You are leaving yourself ready to be hurt, and not just hurt a little bit. Just my two cents, I'd wait until I was older if I were you as other people have recommended.