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How to rekindle the flame?

  • 26-06-2009 11:28am
    #1
    LG26
    Closed Accounts Posts: 75 ✭✭


    Hi All

    I am with the OH for nearly 2 years and I love him dearly. We do not live together so when we do see eachother We/I always make sure we make the most of out time together.

    I have just felt over the past few months that the bedroom play is getting really boring and I find it very difficult to get excited and sometimes, even though I know its not nice, I fake it, just so it's over. I have tried to spice things up and try alot of different things but he is happy with the normal bit of boring foreplay and alot of the time it's only foreplay and NO sex. I have tried talking to him and saying that maybe we should not concentrate on the foreplay as much so then we can actually have sex aswell, because once he cums once he's a goner, fast asleep or just too tired to even want sex. So to be honest it's one or the other and very very rarely we do both.

    This is really starting to get to me and I am hitting a brick wall talking to me. He says we will do different things etc but then it never happens.

    Does anyone have any advice at all??? I just miss the spontaneous moments and to be honest I miss the sex, am sick of just foreplay.

    Thanks for reading this and all comments and advice welcome x


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  • #2
    3qsmavrod5twfe
    Closed Accounts Posts: 440 ✭✭3qsmavrod5twfe


    Take the bull by the horns (figuratively ;)). You obviously want to spice things up, and I take it he has said "Yeah I'm up for it" but not taken any initiative. So you take the initiative.

    When he gets in be waiting for him. Dress suggestively, invent games you can play together that lead to sex e.g write down a list of places (shower, couch etc) on one sets of paper and write down some sexual activity/position on another and pull one of each at random. It can be as freaky as you are both comfortable with, plus its free!

    It is easy to get stuck in a rut of just doing it late when you are both getting ready to go to bed to sleep so try doing something in the afternoon or put that morning wood to use. Incidentally (well me anyway) I always seem to last longer first thing in the morning if longer penatrative sex is what you are looking for.

    Chances are if he sees you take the initiative he will be more open to doing more exotic things with you, but the best thing of all is after you have your bash at adventurous amour you will find the plain old vanilla flavoured missionary position at bedtime more appealing.

    Most of all enjoy the journey!

    Good luck.


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