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Crisis Pregnancy - help

  • 25-06-2009 07:27PM
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8


    Hi, i dont even know where to start but heres my story so far. Im 9 weeks pregnant by my bf of only 2 months. It happened the first nite we had sex, i was foolish enough to have unprotected sex i know , i got the morning after pill 2 days after so i really didnt think id fall pregnant. i tested anyway only to discover this nitemare. I was fairly certain id have a termination as my current circumstances would be disasterious to bring a baby into. I am over a year out of a long term relationship to which i have 2 children out of. I am currently still sharing a house with my ex & the children until we can get it sold. I have my hands full with my 2 children as it is and i dont know this bloke really at the end of the day im only with him 2 months, he says he will stand by me and the baby and that he's ready. but theres no guarntees he wont change his mind when the reality has hit and then im the one left with 3 children being a single mother. I know i couldnt cope with this. My family dont know about this yet - im dreading telling them. I know they will take it very bad and who could blame them. I just dont know what to do. I had changed my mind about the abortion because i just dont think i could live with myself if i went thru with that. i have always wanted another child - but not in these circumstances and with a man im not long with. Now i just feel so depressed, dont want this baby but dont want an abortion. It could be just hormones but i am truely at a loss here. Can anyone offer any advice or words of wisdom? Please ?
    Also i will have to give up my part time job which i have at the moment and the daddy doesnt work at the moment so financially its a joke :-(


Comments

  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,044 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    http://www.positiveoptions.ie/index.php

    You need help and support and someone impartial to talk to and information about all the suports you can get. Please get in touch with postive option and see if you can make an appointment to talk to some one as soon as possible.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,420 ✭✭✭Lollipops23


    OP you need to sit down and really figure out exactly what you want. if your BF should up and leave(and he may surprise you by staying and supporting you) could you cope at all? will finances permit?

    Please don't make any rash decisions without thinking through all your options ( as Thaed said, do contact them) and figuring out if you can survive as a lone parent. best of luck.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 56 ✭✭Twitter


    Hi OP, sorry to read about the miserable time you're having at the moment.
    If you feel you can't cope with keeping the baby or with having an abortion, there is the option of adoption. You need to think through ALL your options.
    Best of luck to you, whatever the outcome :)


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