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Friends problem

  • 24-06-2009 3:55pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi there,

    Hope I could get some insight on how to deal with this situation-

    2 friends of mine are flatmates for few months now and they didn' t know each other before that time- I do know both of them for a few years now and I really appreciate them as genuine and good people-But they had few arguments and recently they had a last one and they almost don't talk to each other now Which is a bit difficult for me when I go to see them...
    don't know exactly what happened and I know that sometimes people show their true face when you live with them but still I don't want to choose one over the other-Unfortunately I feel like because I don't want to choose they are trying to use my friendship one against each other...not nice to be in the middle as both have resentment against each other...

    so meeting with mutual friends is difficult too as we are feeling like we are choosing one over the other... not sure if we could do something to help them-just wondering if any of you had this kind of experience and how you deal with it-

    thanks for reading


Comments

  • #2
    Kevster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    Hi,

    Don't tolerate this - you can't afford to be wasting your life waiting for these guys to start alking to each other again. Simply start going ot with other friends that you have and leave these guys behind. If they want to be difficuly, then let them do it on their own (and not bring you into it).

    Kevin


  • #3
    Oneironaut
    Closed Accounts Posts: 41 ✭Oneironaut


    Had this problem recently. My course of action was not to take sides or listen to the tit-for-tat arguements, instead I just said that I'd continue hanging out with both of them. One of them is still a good friend, the other sent me angry and abusive texts, calling me this and that for not taking his side- so I soon discerned who I wanted to stick around with.

    If one or either of them is making you uncomfortable, you should make it known to them - if they continue to do so, then they're not your friend. Explain that to them, and if they can't handle it, leave their squabbles behind you. Alternatively, you can try to heal the situation and mediate for them both. However, unless you're a protegé of Henry Kissenger or something, you'll probably end up losing one friend or both.


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