Bf and sex

LegacyUser

I'm a 25-year-old girl, been with my bf for nearly 3 years. Both of us consider ourselves fairly open minded when it comes to sex and we have always had a good and adventurous sex life. Anyhow, he turned 30 back in Feb, and as part of it I promised I would let him have anal sex with me for the first time on his birthday (first time for me as well). We worked up to it for a while beforehand with toys, etc. Anyhow, he loved it and I really liked being able to give him so much pleasure.

To be honest I didn't really think past his birthday. I just assumed that this was something new to try that we might do very occasionally. The problem is that he seems ONLY to want it that way now. Vaginal sex is more pleasurable to me, I can't orgasm the other way. But now sex involves maybe 5 minutes there before he wants to move on to the "main event."

I am now sort of regretting that I ever let him do it this way at all. I feel like it has changed our sex life, making it more about him and less about me, and a big part of me wishes that things could go back to the way they were. But I know he doesn't feel this way. From his perspective things are better than ever. And I feel like if I say I want to go back to how things were before, I will be denying him something that he obviously really enjoys.

Any other girls ever gone through something like this? What did you do?

Xiney

You need to communicate this to him.

Is he aware of the fact that you don't orgasm during anal sex? Because if he is and that's really all he wants to do he's being horribly selfish.




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LegacyUser

Dont be afraid to explain to him you prefer to save it for a special treat only.

Reason being, regular anal is hard on the ....ring....explain to him that its not going to be a weekly feature. My fella gets it occasionally if Im in the mood, Id love to be a p0rn queen of course that could take it every day, but what woman can.
Explain if he tries to overdo it you will go off it altogether. He will be dissappointed but fine.
You wont find many women that take anal 6 or 7 times a week so dont worry he will look elsewhere!

Do your kegel excersises that will keep the vag nice and tight, even do em when he is in you. He will love it!

Taltos

Agree with Xiney here.
So why not try some reverse psychology.... - ie next time he tells you what he wants tell him only after you get your stap-on - as you want to see what all the fuss is about...

Seriously though - he is sounding selfish and you really need to sort this out before something like this ruins how you feel about each other...

edit: I know the 1st part sounds like a joke - but hoping it might prompt him to see your viewpoint a bit better.