Haven't seen my two best friends in 3 years

LegacyUser

for whatever reason this is the first summer that it is getting to me. due to pretty terrible coincidence both my friends left the area 3 years ago, one down to another part of ireland while another to a new continent completely.

although i was so sad to see them leave, i was still in school at the time(it was the summer before my 6th year) and they left pretty late on in the summer so going back to school was grand for the most part, the following summer was very very boring but i never really felt down, part of the reason was i was expecting the friend who moved back to another continent to come back to ireland so i was hopeful, plus i was coming down off the 'high' of the leaving cert and couldn't wait to get into college where all my friends were going, but then my friend never came back and i didn't get the points to go to uni where my friends went, i was never the most outwardly person, i wouldn't say anti-social but what my class were into wasn't really me and i was happy to have the banter during the school week and then the weekend to myself.

for some reason i can't remember last summer altho was probably equally as crap but this summer especially with the good weather i feel very lonely and upset, i just want to have my friends and my old life back

im young and healthy, i should be having the best days of my life, i feel like im growing so old despite the fact im young. im so seriously depressed, i know u guys cant do anything but maby just some happy advice.

thankyou

wicklowgal

Ok so I take it you're in college at the moment OP, yeah? Have you got a job for the Summer? TBH, I think you need to start fresh, make new friends. If you are working, the people you work with are a possibility for new friends. Have you many friends in college? How about asking them up to stay with you for a week or so (if they don't live near you) and then you could stay with them a different week.

It sounds like your old friends have moved on, they are clearly happy where they are now, as they haven't come back yet. I think you should do the same. You alone hold the key to your own personal happiness, not your old friends. Get yourself together and decide what you're gonna do with yourself for the Summer. Have you any money to travel? At your age, the possibilities are endless.

Good Luck

Quazzie

Well the first thing I would do is to stop listening to Adams Song

On a serious note, I'd back up what Wicklowgal says and also double up her point about travelling. Being alone isn't a bad thing, being lonely is. Travelling alone can be great fun. You get to do everything to your own schedule, the way you want it, you also get to meet lots of new exciting people. Travelling doesn't have to expensive, in fact the cheaper it is often means the more fun it is. Maybe consider travelling down to your friend down the country for a weekend, or even to your other friend on the other continent if the finances allow, but remember visitng your friends isn't the reason for going, its only the destination. The actual travelling should be the reason. Expanding your horizons, meeting new people, doing something new. All this is possible on a trip if you want it,

If you find travelling isn't your thing how about picking up a new hobby or sport, attend a boards beers, there is lots of them on over the summer. Try doing a skydive for charity, with such good weather at the moment, and more to come, the choices really are endless. Maybe reconnect with your family, sometimes, something as mundane and basic as a chat with your dad or mom might totally brighten up your whole day and give you a different outlook on things.

I'm like yourself, I find it hard to be outwardly social with people I don't know and this often makes me look distant and uninterested, whereas in most cases the opposite is true. Spend some time alone, think of a few things you have always wanted to do, a few things perhaps you want to change about yourself, maybe becoming more outward to strangers is one of them. Write them down (this is important as it makes them feel more real) and then write down goals and ways to sort out these. Its a tad cliche but the longest journey starts with one step, and realising what you want is the first one.