Dreams about the past relationship

Eun

I had a dream last night about my ex. We broke up about a month ago after a year. I miss her so dearly
The problem is, I was the problem in the relationship and I seemed to have caused all the arguments. I don't know what to do, this girl was amazing in every aspect and im having trouble forgiving myself for the pain i've caused her.(i didnt cheat btw) Is there any way to help this? I feel horrible

Astrogeek

I don't really understand what you are asking. Do you want advice on getting over her or getting back with her?

lala stone

dreams like that are a sign there are unsettled issues...ul will keep having them if you dont have closure on these issues..
maybe you should try and talk to her again.. if you feel the way u do,its worth another try??

LegacyUser

I'm five months split from my ex, and still dreaming about him, its a way for your mind/emotions to absorb what happened, deal with it and often points more to your own emotional well being, so examine what the dreams were about, and it may point you in the right direction.....

If you feel you messed up and want to try again, and issues that caused u to split are resolved try contacting her, the time apart may have helped. if u just think the dreams are a sign u SHOULD contact her to resolve issues with teh breakup, just leave it, it'll cause more pain to you. contacting an ex for 'closure' is rarely worth it and can cause more probs for you.

however one thing about ur post bothers me- u say u were the problem, and u caused the arguments, that sounds a little self destructive. it takes two to fight, im sure it wasnt just you- so beware, u may think u broke up because of one thing, and when you talk, find out maybe she felt differently about you. if it's real love, and ur compatable, u tend to resolve issues, not break up with them

VaioCruiser

Eun wrote: »

I had a dream last night about my ex. We broke up about a month ago after a year. I miss her so dearly
The problem is, I was the problem in the relationship and I seemed to have caused all the arguments. I don't know what to do, this girl was amazing in every aspect and im having trouble forgiving myself for the pain i've caused her.(i didnt cheat btw) Is there any way to help this? I feel horrible

Send her a card saying how sorry you are for causing so much pain; that you have no expectations to get together again and just wanted her to know that you regret your part because she is a wonderful lady.

All the best.

Rb

I think a lot of you are overlooking the fact that he's looking at this through rose tinted glasses, holding her on a pedastool and blaming himself for everything.

It's a pretty natural reaction for us men it seems.

OP: Don't worry about it, you broke up for a reason so let that be that. If she wants you she'll know where to find you but don't contact her or you'll never get over her, which is exactly what you need to do right now.

Eun

Astrogeek wrote: »

I don't really understand what you are asking. Do you want advice on getting over her or getting back with her?

I want to get over her, having the worst time at the moment.

I know its over for good, I broke up with her 5/6times throughout the relationship due to various reasons. Through all this mess, her friends/family hate me (don't blame them) and my friends/family don't like her.
I broke off contact with her cause she asked me too, she said she wasn't strong enough to stop talking to me cause she said she loves me too much. So anytime I get a text, e-mail off her I have to ignore it...its killing me.
I know she deserves better TBH so im doing this for her, id be selfish to contact her:(

Astrogeek

You need to stop beating yourself up. You have decided to break off all contact. How about changing your email address? So you won't have to see any emails she might send.
It may seem like it is impossible to forget about her, but it does get easier. Try to keep yourself busy.