How many times is normal?

LegacyUser

This is probably a minor problem compared to others here, but would like some opinions. I'm a guy in my mid 20s, have a gf and we have a good sex life. However, I find that after one bout of sex in a night for example, I'm generally "spent" until the next morning, though I can manage two bouts with about 2 hrs of the difference, but not comfortably. By this I mean I generally just want to chill out/sleep or whatever. I've often heard others claim "oh 20 mins is all I need" or ludicrous claims of 4/5 times in one night. While I know many exaggerate, how common is my "problem" if you can call it that? I have no problems with maintaining an erection during the first bout or satisfying my gf, it just has come to bother me of late. So, Would like to hear others thoughts. Cheers.

Carsinian Thau

It varies from man to man.

If you and your girlfriend are happy (you did say you have a good sex life) then there's no point in letting it become an issue. Try not to worry about it.

PCPhoto

Personally I have had nights when once was enough ..... but I have had nights where I can go again minutes after I blow .... personal best was 10times in a night (this includes playing with each other till we blew loads and also sex - until load blown)...... we were all horned up and couldnt stop....didnt want to stop.

its not about how many times - its about pleasing the woman (guys can blow in a few mins ...sometimes seconds)

Quality over quantity

LegacyUser

PCPhoto wrote: »

Personally I have had nights when once was enough ..... but I have had nights where I can go again minutes after I blow .... personal best was 10times in a night (this includes playing with each other till we blew loads and also sex - until load blown)...... we were all horned up and couldnt stop....didnt want to stop.

OP here - fair enough if it was your personal best, but I think for 99.9% of males, 10 times would be an extreme exaggeration, if you mean ejaculating 10 times in one night! The minutes thing I have experienced in the past, but there is no pattern to it as far as I can see.

taram

Worried? wrote: »

I have no problems with maintaining an erection during the first bout or satisfying my gf

This is the important thing, once you enjoy it and she's happy, what's to worry about? It's the same with my bf, he can go twice in a day at best, but the first time is usually so good we wouldn't even bother going again, we'd just chill together in bed.

mrDerek

for me its not how many times.its for how long.record is ehhh just under 5 hours.rub burn ensued and i was walking awkward for the next day nd a half

Nervous Wreck

For me, as long as we're both satisfied then once is enough.... I've had my nights where I've rolled over 5 minutes later and gone "How about another?" (though not in those eh, charming, words). Most I've done thus far was 3 times in a row but they were in fairly quick succession and the third time just dragged on cos I'd nothing left to blow.... Once you're happy and your lady is satisfied, then yer golden. Go asleep, have a cuddle, bake a cake, do whatever. Just don't stress yourself over it.

LegacyUser

I really wouldn't want to have a sex more then two or three times in one night. I just wouldn't enjoy it past that.

I think sometimes when people talk about having sex god knows how many times they are either lying or they have been having sex just for the sake of it so they can show of.

LegacyUser

ludicrous claims of 4/5 times in one night

Its not that ludicrous!

I think its to do with how strong the vascular system is, after all thats what keeps the blood in the penis to keep it hard.

So some people will obviously be fitter and able to get hard again after a few minutes, others not so much!

Its a personal thing and there is a lot of range between lads. Some can only do it once. Others get hard almost straight away after cumming and want to go again in a few minutes!

Hence the 6 or 7 times a night occasions, having said that. Although the lad can keep it up all day his willy will be a bit raw after it!!!

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Beth1978

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:eek: wow....



OP...I'm kind've of the opinion if its not broke why fix it...so if its not a problem for your girlfriend or your relationship, then don't fret! Its great that you have a good sex life so just relax.

LegacyUser

OP here. Cheers for responses, guess your're right, if its not broke etc. I'll give myself a complex otherwise lol. That said, I could be doing more exercise, getting myself fitter so I'll give that a go anyway and if it has fringe benefits so be it! Seems to be a lot of variation from this thread so as long as we're happy, not going to worry anymore! Have a good one people.

TheSprawl

What's actually the issue that bothers you? You want more pleasure? Want to be able to impart more pleasure upon your gf? Or do you just want to make sure you're "normal"?

If you're happy with your sex life that's all that matters....