Sibling issue

LegacyUser

had huge argument with my older sister. she destroyed some of my important college work which i was trying to get done for a deadline. also threw it outside because it was in her way.parents were on holiday. so...after all the verbal and bit of physical lashing out, harsh things that were said and tears that followed we havent spoke since...its now been over a month..

she has admitted to my dad that she didnt know what came over her when questioned about all of this.

though when the ordeal is brought up with the family, she wont even speak....

usually im the one to make up with her when we are both at fault...this time she is definately at fault.

my mam is the one who has taken this the worst. shes upset that it has happened like this.
shes pleading with me and her to patch things up

she now avoids coming home and i dont care about that to much

out of self respect for myself...i dont see why i have to apologise for all of the frustration she put me through...shes really stubborn and thinks shes the bees knees.

i know shel never stoop down to my level and say sorry......
so what now and mams really quiet lately because of all this.

roadrunner 1

if you have the power to put a stop to all of this then do it.... whos the winner? you said your sis is stubbern, shine girl shine
good luck make mam happy again

messygirl

i have a sister who i always end up making peace and each time she walks all over me AGAIN!! she lies about me, lies to me, turns parents against me, is manipulative and condescending, i have now decided to be civil but i am not going to be manipulated again, tell her you will be civil but you are not putting up with her crap any more, people like that dont change, your sister is using this not coming home to get your mum to make you apologise, do not apologise or else you will always be apologising for something you didnt do wrong, tell your mum if she apologises thats grand but you did nothing wrong, trust me, im mid twenties and have been putting up with this for years and being bossed and manipulated and enough is enough!!!!you cant jeopardise YOUR happiness becasue your parents cant see what she is, your sister is using your parents against you,

sachamama

i think your mother should be grown up enough to realise that she cannot control you both. and if she isn't at this stage you need to talk to her about HER behaviour.

ask your mother not to blackmail you anymore. tell her that its bad enough that you are fighting with your sister but to be blackmailed on top of it is too much.
Live and let live.

LegacyUser

my mum isnt blackmailing me, she isn't putting pressure on me to patch things up but wants someone to apologise etc. suppose shes encouraging us both to put an end to it. i kinda feel guilty that she wont come home. i think i cant very well be sorry towards her. i worked hard to get that college work done and dont appreciate it being ***ked out the door. i dont know whats going to break the silence to be honest.

an important birthday was ruined because she would not come home...lifes too short, but i still want to keep my dignity. shes in a top job etc and so successful and looks down on me....for once i want respect...i just dont know how long this will go on for?

RossFixxxed

Have you considered moving out? It could take a huge weight off you and give you some independence. I wish I had of done it years ago, the difference is huge, and it gives you so much space.

Life IS too short for that crap.