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Arguing all the time.

  • 21-06-2009 8:24pm
    #1
    oxygenman
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 57 ✭✭


    Hi everyone,

    Ok, I'm gonna throw this out there and see what comes back. Myself and herself have been together since dec '07. Got together very quickly and realised that we had something special. I come from Cork and she's a Galway woman, anyway, we were blessed with a little girl ( a beauty ) 12 weeks ago really adore her. I moved from Cork to Galway as soon as we discovered she was pregnant, a big shock to someone who loves cork but she's worth it.

    However, for the last 6/7 weeks we seem to be arguing every weekend, today is fathers day and it wasn't the best to be honest, another argument last night and we are both stubborn especially me, so I'm here on the computer while she's gone to her friends for a few hours.

    Is it normal to be arguing this much, we both love each other and adore our beautiful daughter.

    Oxygenman.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    There's probably an underlying issue to all these arguments and you have to figure out what that is to get by it. The worst time to do it is when you're arguing.

    Try sit down when you're both getting on okay and discuss what ye think might be causing these issues. Listen to each other and don't accuse each other of things because chances are that'll just kick off another argument again.

    I'm guessing the stress and tiredness that comes with having a new baby in the house probably isn't helping matters. It's amazing what overtiredness can do with irritation and logic!


  • #3
    SarahMc
    Closed Accounts Posts: 517 ✭✭✭SarahMc


    Some-one once told me it should be illegal to separate if you have a baby under 1. Obviously it was said tongue in cheek, as you can't legislate like that. However the sentiment is valid. It is a tough tough time, huge changes, her hormones are all over the shop, you are both exhausted.

    Yes, it is normal to be arguing during this time, try to cut her some slack, and look after each other as a family. All the best OP.


  • #4
    CDfm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    Its just 3 months since the birth.

    I hope I wont offend but women are all over the place for the first few months after the birth big event ,hormones and stuff.Its normal and babies demand lots of attention. Your girlfriend is probably knackered.

    Reality kicks in for both of you and you loose lots of sleep and personal freedom. Thats the sacrifice you make for a healthy child.

    You are not going thru anything others dont go thru.Grin and bear itand be thankful for a healthy baby.The good news is that as the baby gets more robust things do settle down.

    Thankfully these days infant and mother mortality rates are much lower then they were in previous generations and that should make you think.

    Theres nothing easy about babies.


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