What should I do?

LegacyUser

Going unreg for this one. I was out during the week and ended up kissing a girl but the thing is I have a girlfriend. I've been feeling terrible with the guilt all week since it happened. I can't believe I was so stupid. Should I tell my girlfriend?

flix1

Alleviate your guilt? no dont for Gods sake let it go and don't do it again...what the hell would you achieve by telling her? Hold onto the unsavoury feeling of guilt just for a while and then leave it go! and spend some cash on your girlfriend!

VaioCruiser

100% agree with flix1

However let me ask you ... do you intend to see this girl again ?

If not then let it go ... and put it down to life's little glitches and to experience . . . one of the ones that YOU DO NOT TELL ABOUT.


All the best.

Sleipnir

No, if it was one mistake, it was one mistake. You tell her and everything could end for a single kiss.
If my girlfriend kissed one guy one night and it was a mistake, I would expect her not to tell me.

Max Power1

if you value the trust in your relationship, tell her. Wouldnt you expect her to tell you if the situation was reversed?

candy-gal1

you have to tell her, if not its going to eventually eat u up inside with guilt and youll never feel comfortable round your girlf again! she deserves to know, n let her make up her own mind about it. make sure to explain why, and maybe even buy her a little present b4 telling her if it makes u feel better, it may land on your head though lol, but u have to tell the truth in relationships all the time, at least then u can always trust each other and believe each other no matter what anyone says. a lie about this could ruin it more than the kiss! good luck!

Broad

candy-gal1 wrote: »

u have to tell the truth in relationships all the time, at least then u can always trust each other and believe each other no matter what anyone says. a lie about this could ruin it more than the kiss! good luck!

candy-gal1 is right I think - tell of the kiss and how and why you regret it so much. And that it was only a kiss and a crap kiss compared with a kiss with her and the other was such a mistake. And if you really mean it she will believe it but she may take a little time to come to that. And aside from the fact that you are telling the truth to your girlfriend, there is always the disasterous chance that the info may come out sometime somehow in the future if you don't tell her - it's amazing how things come back to haunt if you don't come clean.

LegacyUser

Don't tell her,if you tell her,she'll lose her trust in you and feel insecure.

I'd definitely tell her. Ireland is a small place and these things get out. She'd be totally crushed hearing it from someone else.

TheInquisitor

Did anyone that you know see it happen? As in were any of your girlfriends friends out etc? If not don't say a word! It was just a kiss learn from your mistake!

CDfm

It was just a kiss and there is no need to tell. Relax but dont make a habit of it.

Confession is good for the soul but bad for the reputation.

LegacyUser

You HAVE to tell her. i found out that my bf cheated on me with his ex when we were going out 6 months... but i found out when we were going out a year and six months.... a year later. makes me feel like an idiot and that our trust was based on a lie. do the right thing and tell her.

LegacyUser

don't tell her, it's a simple mistake and if you don't intend doing it again then leave it go and remember how bad it made you feel.

LegacyUser

OP here.

Thanks to everyone for the replies it seems to be a very mixed opinions on what to do. The way I'm looking at it now is I really love my girlfriend and it was a stupid drunken mistake, I'm leaning away from telling her because I don't want to ruin the relationship and break the trust over one stupid kiss that is not going to happen again because I see now how bad it made me feel and the thought of hurting my girlfriend is horrible.

Silverfish

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OP here.

Thanks to everyone for the replies it seems to be a very mixed opinions on what to do. The way I'm looking at it now is I really love my girlfriend and it was a stupid drunken mistake, I'm leaning away from telling her because I don't want to ruin the relationship and break the trust over one stupid kiss that is not going to happen again because I see now how bad it made me feel and the thought of hurting my girlfriend is horrible.

Hate to tell you, but you broke the trust by kissing someone else, not by telling her.

It was a choice you made to go ahead and do it, now she deserves the same choice - plenty of people don't break up when someone kisses someone else.

If she kissed someone else, would you rather she didn't tell you? Has she ever said to you whether she'd rather know or not?

If she has said she wants to be told, tell her.

If she has said she'd rather not know, don't tell her.

Bottle_of_Smoke

If you think its going to eat at you and you'll eventually tell her, might as well get it over with now.

If you think you can keep it to yourself and forget about it then maybe just leave it at that. If you do it again just end the relationship

Sephiroth_dude

I think you should tell her,look at this way,if she kissed a guy while being drunk or while being sober,would you want to know?I know I would anyway.

VaioCruiser

People who tell their partners about this kind of passing incident do so to salve their own conscience and for selfish and self centered reasons. If you really care about your partner then keep your mouth zipped and spare them totally unnecessary upset. End of story.

All the best.