My life

LegacyUser

Ok little background, I am 20 with a baby and my GF is 23. We live together both attend college together. She was my first GF who I had sex with and stupid me got her pregnant. I being a nice person that I am I decided to stay and be a family.

The problem is she was the first ever sex wise and am not her first, not even second etc. I feel like I got myself into somthing am not ready for. I love her and all but I want to experience the world of college. I feel like my life has come to and end. I love my baby but I am not ready to settle down and I can't break up with my GF because I hate to see her cry. She also said we would never get back to gether if I leave. I feel trapped!!!

Can I still love some even though I look at other women? I flirt with other women. I am raging with testosterone every time I go out clubbing well when ever I managed. She makes the most money so I am in trouble financially if I leave her. Am at the point that I am considering an affair but who would want a man with a baby and a GF.

I have to friends I can talk to about this. I have no parents and no one! I am on the path of those whom God have condem and not bestown.

Rb

Did you not consider these things when you first found out she was pregnant?

You can't be a normal college kid anymore, I'm sorry, you have a kid and responsibilities now. If you want to break up with her to be with other women, by all means go ahead but you will certainly never live the carefree life of parties and booze that your friends are.

Sorry but you're an adult now, whether you like it or not, and it's time to face up to your responsibilities.

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

I being a nice person that I am I decided to stay and be a family.

The problem is she was the first ever sex wise and am not her first, not even second etc.

She makes the most money so I am in trouble financially if I leave her.

I am on the path of those whom God have condem and not bestown.

Can you please explain the relevance of ANY of these statements?

You sound like a very immature person. So you did her a favour staying with the child that you created?

She slept with other peopl,e you knew this when you met/before you slept with her, why is it an issue now? Becuase you are looking for an excuse to leave?

I'm a man so this isn't just me sticking up for the girls, I really think you need to take a look at yourself and get a grip. If you want to leave then leave, but at least have a set of balls and be man enough to be honest with this woman (the mother of your child) who I presume was not exactly planning to have a baby either.

Kimia

I agree. OP you sound around 14 not even 20. Very immature.

So basically you want to go and sleep around and drink loads and go to MAD parties and hook up with whoever you want with no responsibilities.

Who looks after the baby? Why does it have to be HER? Why does she have to be the one to be responsible. Maybe she feels the same - that's she's trapped by you and wants to break free.

Sh*t happens. Deal with it. You have a baby now. Your MAD college days are over for good.

And what does that last sentance about God mean? Very strange..

turgon

Every poster here is right: you have to embrace this responsibility.

Ye obviously made a conscious decision to keep the baby so now you have to deal with that. Maybe if you had been forward thinking you might have thought of adoption - but you didnt, now deal with it.

A kid is no easy ride. Youve made your choice. Tough.

LegacyUser

If you want to split from your partner and live the single life, then you have every right to do so. There is no point in carrying on in a relationship for the sake of it if you arent happy. However you will always have a responsibility to your child, and to the mother of your child, and therefore you will never be the carefree college student that you'd like to be. Your child must always come first in your life and that's the way it has to be, no matter how young you are.