In trouble

LegacyUser

I just got exam results there this afternoon...but the problem is I just found out that I failed an exam, one that I was pretty certain I had passed....Anyways, I am now going to miss out one the classification of my certificate and the advacement into a degree programme...I know I will have to sit the repeat in early sept...
I just don't know how I can tell my parents that I've failed...I'll literally be dead if I tell them and thats no over reaction! The don't accept failure and I've basically not the most favoured in the family!! How do I approach this??

outspann

I'd suggest that you go to them not just with a problem ("i failed my exam") but also with a possible plan/solution ("i failed my exam... which I will have to repeat in September, but in the meantime I've gotten a job to keep me busy between now and then/I'm volunteering for work in my field to gain experience").

If they still come down hard on you, just remember: sh*t happens. It's how you roll with it that counts.

p.s. I wouldn't necessarily tell them the "sh*t happens" bit!

Lollipops23

wait,if you can repeat it then why can you not get into the degree?

look,you're only human and this is not, repeat,is not a big deal. i know you're disappointed but please have some perspective. if your parents freak out over one failed module then screw them. if that's the worst thing in the world to them then i'd like to live in their world! please don't get overly upset about this, and as mentioned, plan some stuff for your summer.

LegacyUser

I wish it was that simple... my old folks are well known to 'fly off the handle' when it comes to academics...and I'm not joking!! You should have seen there reaction to my brothers leaving cert results and he got 495 points!
I am 21 like but they have very harsh reactions...ie my dad gets aggressive and mum give constant gulit trips which goes on for months...
It's ot that easy as just sitting them down with a plan of action...even though I've sorted one out already

towel401

meh. I repeated 2 whole years. they were grand, dos years since i passed most. even if you fail it the second time you will have a nice lazy year off. when live gives you lemons, make a battery

Lollipops23

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You should have seen there reaction to my brothers leaving cert results and he got 495 points!

honestly there's just no point in trying to please people like this who have an unhealthy fixation on academia. just do what makes you happy and fulfilled, i'm not trying to upset you but you'll never be good enough for these douchebags so you may as well live your life as you see fit.

LegacyUser

I don't even want to be at college, I have to go otherwise I don't live up to standards...!!At the same time I can't afford to have to repeat as I will possibly lose my grant!
I am yet to tell them anything and I am going on holidays on monday and I doubt I will tell them until after I get back....
In my family, you have no option but to have to live up to certain standards...there's just no way around it I only wish there was...I can't wait to get out of here!!